thinking to much

[buzzzybee]

i lost my mum suddenly on 28th nov,i made a complaint against a dr who saw my mum b4 she died and said it wasnt serious,the dr gave my mum some antibiotics 4 celulitus an iner body infection,we did mention my mum was sleeping in conversation and being very weak,she was over weight and house bound and v ill. The dr didnt see that her body was shutting down so we thought it was effects of meds the dr gave her. Its all being bought up again and we have to see a conciliator which is very stressful i'm also 31weeks preg with a little girl who im trying to be strong 4 but i just cant cope lately,if i go on meds i'll worry i'll hert my unborn baby so im going to wait although i do feel worse lately. Then theres mothers day comin up. The conciliator saw the the dr and got some answers but we have to wait to see what she says untill next tues,then i have to go through it all over again but i feel i owe it to my mum to speak up. sorry to go on and on but my partner dosnt understand. I dont know my dad although my mums old friend dropped a bombshell the other day and told us that my dads working at a food place in town where we buy our food! thats really awkward 4us. pls give me advice some1... thanks

[nickytwotimes]

buz, it's not long at all since your mum died, so it's bound to be tough. I still feel very sad about losing my Dad 3 years ago. There was also a question mark over negligence on the part of a consultant, but the evidence was weak, so we left it for our own peace. It is tough when yo uare pregnant too, missing a future Grandparent for your lo. You are doing something good in speaking up for your Mum though. Have you been in touch with "Cruse" at all? They can be very helpful.

[buzzzybee]

Hi thanks 4 ur msg hun. part of me wants to give up but i just want to let it be known to the dr she was wrong. I know we probably wont get anywhere with it and maybe have to leave it but i just feel so lost and i guess i want someone to blame. Its suddenly hit me lately that i will never see her again and it wont go out my head,we was so close. best friends. Sorry to hear bout ur dad. I guess u never stop thinking of them,good days and bad days. Theres always something that comes along,birthdays n so on. I thought she would be in my life 4ever

[nickytwotimes]

buz, many people say yo udon't really grow up until you lose a parent! Not sure if that's true, because i am still a big kid at 34! it is hard to lose someone who has always been there for you. Many people on here know how it feels and would be able to empathise with your hard situation. Hope your pregnancy is going well. Take care.