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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

Bereavement

One of my 11 month old twin daughters died 3 month ago and Imfalling apart no one want to know, even my DH has left me!

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summersun06 · 21/12/2007 22:11

I feel so alone and yes I still have my 9 year old and the other twin, but I feel empty.

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notsofarnow · 21/12/2007 22:13

Of course you do just because you have other children and one of them is the other twin it doesn't mean you are not grieving. I am so sorry you are going through this. Have you had any help from people who can counsel you.

I am so so sorry and words fail me just now but please be assured of my prayers and thoughts and post here and off load. I'm sure someone will be along soon who can help better.

emkana · 21/12/2007 22:15

Oh you poor thing, you have every right to grieve, I'm sorry there's nothing I can really say but I just wanted to express my sympathy

JingEllBells · 21/12/2007 22:15

I am so sorry for your loss summersun. I wish there was something I could say or do to make things better for you. I will be thinking about you.

notnowbernardimstuffingthebird · 21/12/2007 22:16

So sorry to hear of your loss

Do you feel the need to talk about it? Because you can here, if you want to.

Ledodgy · 21/12/2007 22:16

You're bound to feel empty you have lost your child. I'm so, so sorry and haven't got any advice but stay here and i'm sure someone who has some names of organisations that can help you will post.

constancereader · 21/12/2007 22:17

I am so sorry.

Keep posting here, there is always someone to listen.

moljam · 21/12/2007 22:18

summersun06 how awful!so sorry.

ChirpyGrinch · 21/12/2007 22:20

Summersun, I am so sorry you are going through this, again I can only empathise as I have not gone through this but I am sure others will be along.

summersun06 · 21/12/2007 22:21

Thank you guys, It means alot to know that there are people out there. Sadly notsofarnow I have have no one supporting me in any way, its so hard I have been to the docs and asked for help (counciling) but there was a 6 month waiting list all they could offer were anti depressants. Thank you for your prayers they are most welcomed.

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wrinklytum · 21/12/2007 22:22

Summer,so sorry.

I read your post last night xx

The evenings must be particularly hard,as kiddies in bed and everything so quiet.

Too much time to think.

Have you got family near?

Are you receiving any help in RL (real life)

Hugs,Wrinkly xx

wessexgirl · 21/12/2007 22:23

How devastatingly sad for you. I hate to think of people going through this kind of grief alone - I hope you find some support and help. ((Hugs)).

Ledodgy · 21/12/2007 22:24

have just found this for you. Maybe you could ring them tommorrow as they are closed tonight

constancereader · 21/12/2007 22:24

That is a very poor response from your doctor - surely there should be some help available? Are you on the waiting list?

summersun06 · 21/12/2007 22:24

Thank you to you all. It is the hardest thing in the world to find something to say in these situations, so many people ignore me and cross over the road, others pretend that she never exsited but you have all answer my tread thank you!

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Ledodgy · 21/12/2007 22:25

also the bereaved parents network here

moljam · 21/12/2007 22:26

i cant believe your doctor isnt being more helpfuldo you have family,close friends around?

Ledodgy · 21/12/2007 22:28

Where abouts in the country do you live Summer? (just roughly)

SpawnChorus · 21/12/2007 22:28

Summersun - I wish I could say something to help with your grief You're new here, aren't you? And new to the internet generally, I think? I really hope MumsNet can give you some of the support you need. There are always folk around ready to chat which can be invaluable when you need to work things through.

summersun06 · 21/12/2007 22:31

No I dont have family near wrinkly, I wish I did! Its just me and the girl really.

Thank you for that site Ledodgy that was very kind of you!

Yes I am on the waiting list Constancereader, its something but its how do i get through next week, never mind 6months it fell impossible

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gigglewitchyouamerrychristmas · 21/12/2007 22:32

i'm another one who hasn't got a clue what to write but just want to send ((hugs))

summersun, a part of your family is no longer where you can see them, it is a huge empty space. I probably don't need to say, but this time of year is so hard for anyone who is missing somebody, because they "should" be here, we should be buying them presents, the whole thing is harder than anyone can believe. Your daughter will be missed so desperately by all of you. Obviously your DH is so unable to cope with it that he is needing to 'cut himself off' from it all - this is a way that people often try to deal with pain, until they find that it doesn't actually help.
You are in the hardest situation that I don't think anyone can fully understand, but lots of us are here for you and if there is any way of helping you just the tiniest bit, just keep on posting.

summersun06 · 21/12/2007 22:32

I live in Durham

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oregonianabroad · 21/12/2007 22:33

My thoughts are with you.

Aitch · 21/12/2007 22:34

oh god it sounds awful, i'm so sorry to hear that you lost your wee girl. it must be hard to take joy in anything. keep posting here, i hope talking can help.

1dilemma · 21/12/2007 22:34

summersun I am so sorry for your loss what a terrible time for you and your children, I too will pray for your family and your wee daughter there are others on here who have lost children and they will come along soon to offer some more practical advice

piximon · 21/12/2007 22:36

I'm so sorry for your loss, having other children is obviously no consolation for the loss of another one. I wish I had some helpful advice to give you, but just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts.

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