My 48 year old husband died this morning. We don’t know why but it was probably a massive heart attack. I found him face down wedged between furniture and making grunting noises. I called 999 but it took me ages to get him out and on his back as he is big and I am small. I did cpr and the paramedics worked on him for over an hour but there was no response. My poor kids witnessed a lot of this (9 and 6). I am lost. I keep imagining if I’d just got him out quicker and started cpr sooner he might still be alive. How do I stop picturing his face as he died? I miss him so much and the kids are so young. I’m just not sure I can get through it
I am so so sorry to hear what you are going through. What an awful shock. Sorry for you and your family’s loss. Do you have someone who can support you?
💐 so sorry but if it was a massive heart attack it would be very hard to get someone back after that. I hope your children are ok? In time I would look into counselling for them and for yourself 💐
I am so so sorry. The odds of him surviving such a massive heart attack, especially outside of hospital, are very low. I hope you get reassuring confirmation of this from a doctor or pathologist to comfort you that you really couldn’t have saved him.
Oh how dreadful. I don't know how you will get through this but people do, so there must be a way. Sadly people who haven't been through it can't easily feel what you feel, but there are others who will have been somewhere similar to where you are, so there are people who can help. But it is very early and you must be terribly shocked.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband, I wish you and your children well
I’m so sorry. What an awful shock for you all. Don’t blame yourself, you did everything you could at the time. Couldn’t have done more. You need close family and friends around you and time to process this.
How completely awful for you and your kids. My brother in his 30s suddenly collapsed and died like this just before the pandemic and it was just so so awful and I wasn’t even there. There’s nothing anyone can really say to make this better but just look afternoon yourself and be kind to yourself right now. I’m sure you did your absolute best for him, it’s natural to have these what if thoughts right afterwards but sometimes people just can’t be saved despite best efforts and it’s not you right fault. I’m sure you’re still in shock. Do you have a family member or friend with you keeping you company right now and making sure you all get fed etc? This is no time to worry about COVID restrictions if that would help so please ask if you haven’t already. Some people find it helpful to have a short course of Valium or similar from the GP to get through the days in the immediate aftermath of this sort of shocking awful situation. Longer term CRUSE bereavement care are great in what they do and Winstons Wish/Child Bereavement UK are great acharities which can support the kids. WAY (Widowed and Young) can also be a great resource. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry. The stats for successful CPR in community is very low....I believe around 10%. And even lower for an event which isn’t witnessed from the initial point.
