I miss my dad a lot

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saffire Sun 14-Feb-21 22:12:03

I was just going to post the same thing! Watched Mamma Mia and it made me cry so much as it made me think of my mum.
It's only been four months- it still feels like it was yesterday and yet it feels so long ago as well?

It just hurts so much. I miss her. I just want one more chance to say the things I should have said and to hug her. It feels like it's going to hurt forever.

BackforGood Sun 14-Feb-21 21:35:07

Ah, well yes. A new baby that you know won't have the privilege of getting to know your Dad is going to trigger these feelings.
It is perfectly normal and natural.
I still feel incredibly sad that my dc never knew my parents.

NoProblem123 Sun 14-Feb-21 20:20:32

No advice really but be kind to yourself.
Having a baby is an important life event and it’s natural to want to share that with your lovely dad.
flowers

CantBeAssed Sun 14-Feb-21 17:21:44

There will come a time when you will be able to think of your dad and the sadness and grief will not be as overwelming...
We never forget..i still think of my dad on a daily basis..even when im trying to make an important decision in life..i always ask what advise would my dad give....they never really go anywhere..we carry them with usflowers

shouldistop Sun 14-Feb-21 17:15:43

I think I've been thinking about him more as I just had a baby 2 months ago and I'm so sad they'll never know each other.
Every day ds1 does something that I want to text dad about or I take a picture of the baby that I want to send him.

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BackforGood Sun 14-Feb-21 16:10:47

Gosh, bless you, this is still very new and fresh.

I miss my Dad on occasions - we lost him over 17 years ago.
We all grieve differently, but my experience is that time lets you move from being initially distraught, or being sad, to a gradual morphing to the times when you think about the person you've lost being happy memories.
I can't tell you when it "will get better". There never was a sudden turning point for me, it is a gradual thing. People also get triggered by different things - a lot of people talk about the first Christmas or birthday or anniversary, which weren't particularly big issues for me, but I do tend to shed a tear on their "big days" - my dc are now adults and I wish my parents had been here to see them graduate or get married. Or my Dad was really into football and I would have been so proud to take him to the cup final my daughter was playing in (some 13 years after he died) and so forth. However, mostly, he gets mentioned when we have smiles on our faces...... either "Do you remember when...." or I tell my dc "Your Grandad would have....."

shouldistop Sun 14-Feb-21 13:14:57

My dad died just over a year ago, every day I still have moments of sadness, like it's always at the back of my mind. My 4.5yo still mentions him nearly daily and asks about death etc.
When will it get better?

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