This is just going to be somewhere to write out what I haven’t been able to say anywhere else.
1 year ago at end of April, my dad died. He choked to death whilst eating his dinner and though he was resuscitated, he’d been dead too long so we switched off the life support a couple of days later. He was 68.
My dad was often distant, was cruel at times and took little to do with me and my life, but there were moments and sparks of kindness, he left us when I was around 5 and we spent weekends travelling to be with him and weeks with my mum.
I dipped into severe anxiety this last year, I’ve made a fool of myself at work by crying, being needy and over trusting people who have then been cruel and dismissive. I feel like an outsider but feel trapped where I am, it helped with current situation. I often don’t like myself very much.
My family never ask how I’m doing, I’ve always been the ‘strong one’. My DH is great, but because I wasn’t so close to my dad I’m not sure he understands how I feel sometimes.
It’s almost like I was given 3 months of grieving and then just expected to get on with it. No one seems to show kindness or empathy and coming up to this 1 year anniversary I feel the anxiety creeping in and a doom like feeling that things will not be okay and I will lost everything.
I’m bored of this and want to break this cycle.
Anyway, not sure what I am asking by posting this really, just needed to get it out. If anyone is able to share anything that would be kind. Xx
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Almost 1 year ago since my dad died
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