My dad died on Wednesday

[needsomehelptoday]

I've been upset but it seems to have hit me like a tonne of bricks tonight. I can't stop crying, I feel like I can't breathe.
How does anyone get through this?

[PinkCrayon]

You will in time, hurts like hell, but you learn to manage it more over time.
So sorry

[needsomehelptoday]

How am I going to hold it together at his funeral? I keep going to text him then I remember. I feel so lonely.

[Ginger1982]

It takes time, but you'll get there

[neversleepagain]

I am sorry for your loss

My dad died on my birthday almost 3 years ago and the pain took my breath away and I thought I'd never heal. I did and life carried on and I was ok and I promise you'll be too.

[WhoKnewBeefStew]

Oh I'm so sorry

[Rhodes2015again]

Hi op, I’m so sorry about your dad. My mum died 2 weeks ago today and I have had a few days like that so far but most days I have been very practical and getting on with what needs to be sorted and making sure my dad is ok.
Have you got support? My husband is usually crap tbh but he has been brilliant.
Her funeral isn’t until the 12th and I feel like once we stop with all the arranging and sorting etc it’s going to hit me even harder.
I feel guilt and regret even though she knew we loved her very much and there was nothing we could have done.
X

[Makinglists]

Thinking of you -my mum died 18 months ago - I cried,felt angry, then an adrenalin rush of organising, then flat. I miss her every day (even though we didn't always see eye to eye) but I kind of feel at peace with it if that makes sense. There is no set time to deal with it - give yourself space, speak about it, share it and it's ok not to be ok. Xxxxx

[Insertwitticismhere]

So sorry for your loss. Happened to me 6 weeks ago and it still catches my off guard. Swinging from denial to overwhelmed acceptance I think.
Just keep breathing. Sounds ridiculous but consciously taking the time to moderate my breathing really helped me. You will get through, I promise.

[AdaColeman]

It hurts so terribly, but you will get through it.
Don't worry about the funeral, everyone will understand that you are distressed.

[PinkCrayon]

I couldn't hold it together at my Dad's funeral it was way too hard. And do you know what nobody will expect you to have to hold it together. Your emotions will be all over the place at the moment.
Don't worry take each day at a time..
Be kind to yourself. You will be adjusting to life without him in regard to wanting to text. I remember walking into my Dad's house and expecting to see him there. My mind was on alert for him if I heard the deeper tones of a male voice in a different room it would upset me alot.
It all takes time.
You will get there.

[Makinglists]

Your not expected to hold it together for the funeral. Let others speak about him, get friends, family, your pet whoever to support you. Personally I'd said goodbye to mum before hand (in my head) so though I did cry I just saw it as 45 mins or so of life I had to get through. Seeing other people who knew my mum there really helped. Bless you it is so hard but you will get there.xxx

[ParkheadParadise]

Sorry for your loss @needsomehelptoday
Your probably still in shock. Grief hits you when you least expect it.

[needsomehelptoday]

I'm still struggling anytime I'm alone and not busy for any length of time.
Grief is such a physical thing, I feel ill.
My poor dad suffered so much as well, he was so strong and never complained.
He was only 62. It's not fair.