My grandmother’s story is very sad and not one I know much of at all . Her only child was taken away from her in a mother and baby home , and adopted . She ended up very mentally ill and ?alcohol dependant, and alone - hundreds of miles from family . She’s buried there - alone, and I can’t go to see her grave at all , too far for me to travel (it is in the UK, but not on the mainland) .
I never met her , she passed away when I was very young, and her child (my parent) has only really spoken of her to me very recently - showed me a couple of photographs etc .
I’ve been a bit teary at the thought of her being alone on a hill in a wet/cold place with no one to visit and pop a flower down even . I was brought up Catholic so I’ve said a prayer for her but I want to somehow acknowledge her existence, yet I’m clueless how to .
I don’t want to ask parent as I think they’d be less than comfortable discussing it again and we don’t have a very close relationship as such .
It’s also not something I feel totally comfortable discussing with anyone else unfortunately, as I’m worried I’d offend my family somehow - I don’t know parent’s biological relatives at all, my ‘family’ are those that adopted him and my other parent’s relatives. I don’t know if they’d understand feeling sad over someone I’ve never actually met !
What could I do to make peace with these feelings somehow?
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somethingquiteatrocious · 01/11/2019 09:47
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