Can someone just tell me I'm going to survive this?
Mum died of ovarian cancer a year ago in August. I live with my family and 2 kids in Germany so was able to brush it aside - the SSRI I was on probably helped me bury and suppress my feelings too. I quit the meds in March to try a different type (DNRI) but it's been downhill since there.
Now my grief is all caving in on me. I'm a wreck, a ball of anxiety and tension. I can't imagine having sex. I often find it hard to eat. I've started having super early periods making me fear I've begun the slide towards menopause at just 36. Nights are the worst. I am exhausted but feel wired all night and unable to sleep, and all my fears come crashing in on me and smothering me with terror. My eyes are dry and itchy and my tongue feels permanently burnt. I feel like a stranger in my own body, in my own life, I feel like my husband and kids are so far away from me.
Added to this we've moved from our tiny but beloved apartment into a sublet while our new home is being built and I am so sad. This place is weird and unfamiliar and not cosy. Everytime I think of my old home I feel a rush of such intense melancholia it overwhelms me, like a weakness in my limbs and a heaviness, emptiness in my gut. I can't go home again, just like I can never get back to a time when I had a mum and my brother and Dad weren't hopeless wrecks of heartbroken men.
Please someone tell me this is normal and it ends and that my new life is something to look forward to and not just a pale imitation of happier times.
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Grief, anxiety, perimenopause and moving house
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microferret · 24/09/2019 13:49
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