First mc don't know what to expect (sweetkitty)

[sweetkitty]

Have no internet access just now (on DPs dial up work laptop) really really missing mumsnet right now.

Also can't post a message on the Due in March 08 thread and I know the girls will be wondering what's happened to me.

Am 8 weeks pregnant with DB3 last Thursday had a slight brownish bleed but it was hardly anything so wasn't that worried. Had a scan yesterday and the baby and sac were only measuring 6 weeks and she couldn't see a heartbeat she kept asking me if my dates were right but I had a BFP 4 days before AF was due so dates are spot on. She booked me in for a scan next Thursday but she wasn't too hopeful apparently the sac didn't look right either. I've had a slight bleed tonight but it's not heavy.

I don't know what to expect? How long will the bleeding last? How will I know it's all gone? Will it hurt? Do I have to tell the hospital?

My head is so messed up I feel so lucky to have the DDs and it's only my 1st one I know so many on here have had several. It's so horrible and unfair.h

[Dontlookatmeimshy]

Oh no Sweetkitty

Don't know what to say.

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}

Do you want me to post a message on the March thread for you?

[sweetkitty]

thanks dontlook hopefully I will get my PC back soon I will drop in on the thread to see how you are all doing from time to time xx

[lissie]

im so sorry. its not fair. not at all!

did write a full response but deleted it, the truth is that every mc is different. ive had a 4+5w mc which has been more painful and difficult than my 7w mc.

im so sorry

[skidoodle]

oh no sweetkitty, so sorry to hear that

don't really know what to say either, but sending all good thoughts your way.

[Nemo2007]

oh SK huge hugs to you((((((((((())))))))))))) if you email me I will send you my mobile no. so we can talk by text if you want??
[email protected]

[sweetkitty]

thanks it's so lovely to know your not alone in this (although it's so crap we all have to go through it)

nemo - I cna't email right now can't get into hotmail but will drop you an email once my pc is fixed hopefully it will be soon I'm missing mumsnet so much

lissie I remember you having your mc too see you on the ttc boards hopefully we will be preggie mates again soon x

[imjin100]

Sweet kitty, gutted to hear things aren't looking so sprightly and nothing I say can help but just to let you know am thinking of you lots and sending you extra special hugs. Take great care of yourself. Big hugs

[belgo]

sweet kitty - I was in exactly the same position as you last week, except I was seven weeks pregnant with what we planned to be our third and final child.

As soon as I saw the scan with no heartbeat, I knew it was all going wrong. Waiting for the miscarriage to happen was very stressful.

I passed the embryo sac and it's contents, which I buried in our garden giving me a sense of peace. Also a piece that I assume was the placenta. I bled heavily for 5 days, make sure you have plenty of pain killers to hand. And get plenty of rest. My hormones took about a week to settle, but last night, I cried again in bed.

i then had a scan to make sure everything was ok.

Wishing you all the best, and plenty of hugs.

[pipsqueeke]

oh kitty i'm so sorry for you - have been searching for you furiously over the past few days. for me the brown bleedig started on mondya and turned into red on the afternoon, by th etues am it was a bit lighter but after the scan (I had an internal one as well as I wanted to know either way) the sac came away about an hour after we came home - tbh i'd go thru all the pain in the world instead of going thru that aagin. that truely is the worst part (at least I felt so) bleeding continued passing small clots, bleeding was v heavy at this point, weds I was in quite a bit of discomfort and again yesterday morning - I took some pain killers in the end. yest afternoon the placenta came away the bleeding isn't as heavy now and the pain has pretty much gone again. sorry to be so detailed as I know it's not what you wantto read, but it helped me to know what to look for iycwim.

be good to yourself kitty. rach is also going thru the same thing from our thread and blego just has as well, so between us we can all support each other and move forward. as it was said on a differnt thread to put your head into perspective helps with the rest of it if that makes sence. althou granted that bit is v v hard. (think i'm still running on auto piolet tbh) talk to your DH as he will be feeling it to. my email if you want to talk is

[email protected] anytime.

[winemakesmummyclever]

Oh SK, I'm so sorry for you and your dp. Try to get plenty of rest and don't overdo things - am sure your family and friends will rally round you at such an awful time. Take care mate x.

[merryberry]

Sweetkitty I'm gutted to hear your problems.

I've made a new short March thread if you want to join us and are still on dial up, this should help.

I'm going offline on holiday, and will be reading from my mobile only to follow your news. I'll be thinking of you. xxx

[yardette]

Sweetkitty, thinking of you and big hugs coming your way
x

[wendyredhead]

Sweetkitty - so sad for you - take care x

[timmyinatizzy]

Sweeykitty. So sorry to hear your sad news. Make sure you take care of yourself. xxx

[WinkyGirl]

I am very sorry to hear your news Sweetkitty
I have lost two babies this year and know how hard it is. But I cannot thank my fellow mumsnetters enough for getting me through. Hope you are ok and make sure you take some time out for yourself. Do something you enjoy xx

[c4it]

Sweetkitty, I'm so sorry

[victoriagirl]

Hi sweetkitty
So sorry for your loss. I had a MMC in April at 10 1/2 wks. The thing that would have helped me is being warned that it might hurt quite a lot, you might get contractions type pains, that it can last for several days (bad pain- stayed in bed- for about 3 days for me, then it got easier), and the bleeding lasted for at least a week but obviously tailed off towards the end. But every MC is different and it might not be so painful for you or last as long. And it would be worth going back to the hospital after to check you have passed everything. If it is still there when you go next week, they will probably offer to surgically remove it. NHS Direct were brilliant with us if you are worried at any point over the next few days.
And yes- you're right it is horrid and terribly upsetting, but it also suprised me by how quickly really I came to terms with it (even though I was still sad) and if anything the whole process made my and my partner stronger.
Hope the next few days aren't too bad. Will be thinking of you.

[LoveAndSqualor]

sweetkitty, I'm so very sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you and all good wishes xx

[derah]

Oh Sweetkitty I'm so sorry! We've been together on the March thread almost from the beginning and you're one of the ladies I feel closest to. Please know I'm thinking of you and wish I could give you a huge hug. It's just so unfair!! Oh man, words just aren't enough are they?

[FoghornLeghorn]

Oh no Sweetkitty, I've only just seen this.
No advice - hope you are bearing up

x

[lissie]

how are you doing SK?

[barrelrider]

God SK I've just seen this, I am so so sorry. I hope you've had your questions answered - I expect by now you have. Chin up, thinking of you x

[piekin]

sorry that you are going through a bad and scary time, thank you for all your love and reassurrance on the march thread, you were one of the most important posters for me re. experience and advice and I hope you might pop in when you feel ready, everyone thinking of you.xx

[ladylush]

sorry to hear this sweetkitty How are things now? Did you have your 2nd scan yet?

[glammarjoram]

sweetkitty. just seen this as my Pc was out of action for 10 days. I'm so sorry. I hope you're ok. Thinking of you.XX