Lost my grandmother a year ago, anniversary soon. I was her only grandchild and I grew up in a single parent family so was very close to my grandparents.
It was sepsis. It was horrific. She didn’t have adequate pain relief, she was in a bay even though they knew she was dying. They insisted on keep turning her even though they knew she was dying, causing her to scream in pain. We left at the end of visiting time because she was on a bay and we felt we were disturbing other patients. None of the staff let us know death was imminent or we wouldn’t have gone. We got a phone call as we were driving home. I drove as fast as I could, I ran through the hospital. I ran into the bay and saw her lying there dead before anyone could tell me she had gone. My legs went from under me. The way the hospital dealt with us was crap and I have only realised this since my best friends mum died and I was there and witnessed how they were treated so much better (same hospital). They were informed they could visit her in the morgue. Nobody ever told us we could do that and because it wasn’t me paying for the funeral etc I had no choices so wasn’t able to visit her at the funeral home. I still get angry about all this and I’m struggling to move on.
Sorry I just needed to type all that out.
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birdiewoof · 07/01/2019 20:10
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