my neighbours dd died yesterday

[misdee]

they think it was cardiomyopathy

[Freckle]

Oh how sad. How old was she?

[misdee]

17 i think. she had a lot of other 'issues' as well.

i dont know how to help them.

[NuttyMuffins]

Oh god, how awful.

[Flower3554]

Oh how awful. So young

[nogoes]

Very sad

[Desiderata]

Oh, misdee. How to help? Does anyone have the answer to that?

It's overwhelming when someone loses a child.

My MIL lost her son at 19 (he was my fiance at the time). This was many years ago, and she doesn't talk about it much, but when she was struggling to cope, she really felt the lack of human contact. No one came round.

I once asked her what anyone could have done. She was pragmatic (she still is). 'Nothing' was her answer. 'But couldn't someone just have come round and held my hand?'

[misdee]

oh des, i wish i could, but cardiomyopathy scares me(dh has it). its cutting very deep right now.

just sorting out some flowers for them.

[noddyholder]

Oh god that is awful and another reminder of how serious this condition is.You aren't really in a position to help her though as you are run off your feet yourself Maybe a card saying you are thinking of them.Quite unusual for it to happen to a girl at that age

[misdee]

the other medical problems as well ties in noddy. their other children now have to be checked. am feeling very very sad for them all.

[Pinkchampagne]

Oh how awful

[Mercy]

Desiderata, that is so sad and very moving.

Misdee

[Desiderata]

I can understand that, misdee. For what it's worth, I didn't visit my fiance's mum after his death, because I was going through my own private hell. I didn't practice what I preach

But flowers and a well-chosen card can be a great help.

[GreebosWhiskers]

That is so so sad misdee. I guess all you can really do is let them know you're thinking of them.

[bewilderbeast]

oh that's so sad the poor family

[shhhh]

suppose just letting her know you are there and offering support she may need..not necessary emotinal support etc..to ask if she needs owt when you pop to tesco for example may be a great help for her..??

Such a shame. .