Grief

[Anotherdayanothernight]

Hello,
My grandad passed away 4 months ago, he had a stroke but his health had deteriorated since last year, still a shock though.
Everyone was obviously devastated and we were all at the hospital when he passed away 4 days after the stroke.
He was like a dad to me as my mum was a single mother, and he always believed and supported me since I was a child.
Now I feel I haven't grieved properly, and haven't taken enough time to get over this. I also feel guilty as I live in a different country so can't be there for my mum to support her as my grandmother is obviously very upset and says she wants to die too.
Its difficult to take time off work, I don't get compassionate leave, and I'm burying my head in the sand to actually deal with my grief and I also feel guilty as I'm not in he same country.
I do have moments when I cry, mostly when I'm by myself, or with my partner, but still...

[plum1985]

So sorry for your loss. My dad passed away very suddenly 15th May.
I have good days and bad days.
I have a friend who lost her dad 8 years ago. She told me she still has bad days but finds the bad days easier to deal with as time passes. She had bereavement counselling and said that helped.
Hope you are ok. Can your mum come and visit you for a bit?