My husband died 2 years ago (suicide, pretty horrific). I’m so lonely. Feel like I should be getting over it now and building a new life but the reality is life as a single mum is restrictive. I have a young DS and work full time. Don’t have any family nearby. Don’t have many (any?) close friends I can truly be myself with. I end up feeling more lonely being with people I can’t be myself with. I don’t have the kinds of friendship where we call each other. Sometimes I call my dad and he’s fairly supportive but will often say things like ‘have you talked enough now or do you need to talk some more?’ which makes me feel needy and like I’m taking up too much of his time.
I’m constantly weighing up which is worse - to hold all of this loneliness by myself, or to deal with sharing then feeling needy, boring etc.
I want to go on and on about how much this sucks and how alone and trapped inside my own head I feel. I fear boring people though. I feel like people get uncomfortable with me, wanting to fix me or suggest things to do which still don’t solve the awful loneliness of this life I’ve ended up in. Sometimes I think maybe I just need to learn to accept it all, sit with the feelings but at times it’s so so painful.
I can’t think of a single thing to do that will distract me enough. I can’t concentrate on reading. I can’t get lost in tv/film dramas like I used to. I end up going to bed soon after my son just to sleep and get away from the silence and the feelings.
Feel pathetic now. I think most of the time I’m fairly okay but sometimes it all feels too overwhelmingly sad and lonely to bear. I saw my therapist today and said a lot of this, and just feel even lonelier now. Sometimes speaking it out loud seems to make it feel more intense and now I don’t know what to do with myself.
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Ellafruit · 12/06/2018 18:46
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