My Dad passed away 2 months and it's been a rollercoaster of emotions for the whole family.
Although devastated, I feel like I'm now starting to get on with things, back at work and running around after a toddler. My siblings are the same, making plans for the future and keeping busy/distracted.
We are very worried about DM. Ofcourse it's going to take much longer for her to even begin to feel normal again but are now at a loss as to how to help. She is getting worse every week. Her life was with Dad, both very co dependent, little social life out with him and the house.
I'm visiting often, listening when she needs to talk, encouraging her to get out with us, suggesting new hobbies etc as feel sitting in the house on her darkest days are not helping and worsening her mental state (her anxiety and stress are now manifesting in physical ways such as tremors and panic attacks). She goes nowhere unless we drive her and plan it all.
We managed to persuade her to visit a doctor and she got some medical help with depression but we really want her to see a grief Councillor but she won't entertain it.
I just think she needs bigger help than we can offer her. I can't bear to hear her sobbing telling me she hates her life, is a burden and doesn't want to live anymore. We have lost our Dad and really struggle to hear her say this.
I feel so awful for thinking it but when I see her calling late at night my heart sinks at the thought of another hour long call with her saying these things and being dragged back into the dark grief that I'm trying to move on from, selfish I know.
Anyone been there or have any advice? She seems better this weekend, we got her out to a family event and she had DS one day but now heard that she had my sibling up in the early hours telling her she doesn't want live. Just don't know what to do anymore.
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Pondering1 · 16/04/2018 11:21
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