It's all a big fucking mess. I've been non contact with my mum for 7 years, although she did have dementia so wasn't aware that I was non contact. This happened for lots of boring complicated reasons and wasn't helped by a sibling threatening to kill me if they saw me (hence me stopping visiting on the off chance we ran into each other - yes I'm a coward)
I've done a lot of soul searching over the last 7 years and have no guilt attached to not seeing my mum. But now she's dead.
I found out from another sibling who has passed the message on that I won't be welcome at the church, crematorium or wake. I'm ok with that. I'm not religious (neither was mum) and I said goodbye to her a long time ago, what I'm not handling is the aggression. Not only from family (which is to be expected, they've only heard one side of the story and I don't intend to tell them my side), but from people I don't know.
I have been called in the week since she died a selfish bitch (by a woman in the local shop), that I should be ashamed of myself (another woman at the bus stop) and a cousin I haven't seen for 20 years has tracked me down to tell me she hopes I die a miserable death alone.
I don't know why I'm posting really. I don't have any friends and only DP and DD at home. Has anyone else ever had a backlash after a death? I understand completely that grief does funny things to people and I've come to terms with the fact that people don't thing very highly of me. I just want to be left alone
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MayhapsIAm · 05/04/2018 17:10
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