I am so sorry if what I am about to type upsets anyone. I just need to get some very painful thoughts and feelings out.
DN has had a healthy and normal pregnancy. She got to 41 weeks..last week was in and out of hospital with reduced movement..scanned..told all was okay. Last Friday I took her out for lunch and we talked excitedly about her birth plan, talked about plans for Xmas day (I'm hosting) the little Xmas outfit he is going to be wearing on Xmas day and when I dropped her off, the last thing she said to me was "next time you see me, I'll have a baby with me!"
The rest of the story has been told to me in a bit of a blur by my shocked Dsis. She had a "sweep" on Wednesday as she had gone a week over her due date - heartbeat all fine..and then they sent her home. Thursday she rang the hospital as she had backache and said she didn't feel right and that something was off. Was scanned and told the baby has died.
My poor 20 year old DN then had to endure one of the the worst things imaginable to me. Through a painful birth which my DSIS tells me will haunt her for the rest of her life. (Dsis was her birth partner) My DN and her partner were so strong and brave but the family are completely shocked, numb and devastated.
I can't stop thinking about the pain she must be in..having to go home after giving birth with no baby. Having a body that has physically just given birth and having leaky nipples. Having to see all the baby paraphernalia in her house. Today she had to go down to the registry office to register the birth..and death as one date.
I can't stop thinking about where did it all go wrong? What the heck happened? How can something like this happen in this day and age?
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guestofclanmackenzie · 13/12/2017 20:29
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