I am caring for my dying mum-in-law in my, and her son's home, and she seems to be near the end. But I can't seem to get it through to her only son (my man), that he should be with her at this time, and to hang with his work. He has a pretty high powered job, and I think he is coping by being in some sort of denial of the inevitable. Last night I heard her calling out, and went to her bedside, but she was shouting his name, so I called him through from his bed. She called out his name and "my son", in a frustrated way, and I feel so sorry for her that he refuses to take time off work for her. She has reached the stage where she can only drink if you drip water into her mouth with a syringe, and is palliative care. Has any one else had this problem?
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My mum passed away last year. We were ever so close. While my siblings and I took turns looking after her when she was ill so that we were always with her and all did our fair share....I hated it. She wasn’t her any more; I was scared and anxious being around her, and couldn’t bear to see her feeling pain and sadness. That said, I am glad I did spend time with her before she went - I think I’d really regret it if I hadn’t.
So i think it’s understandable for him to want to distance himself...but at the same time, its not fair on you. You need support and time away from it all. They both sound very lucky to have you around 
Oh bless you. It's so tough, isn't it?
Can you encourage him to do the night-time visits, even if he is out at work all day. At best, being tired all day may focus his mind on the fact that work can wait. If not, at least he will spend some time with her even if he then battles through the day at work.
FWIW some employers also expect their employees to keep going in, and may only grant a day or two's compassionate leave, so his attitude may be reinforced at work, and he may not feel as if he has an option. Or he may just be in denial/expect you to do the caring. 
When my dad was dying, we all spent weekends with him and as many evenings as we could individually manage but none of our employers would have given us open-ended time off to be with him. One of my siblings had a particularly strict policy of 2 days compassionate leave so saved one day for the day after he died and one day for the funeral.
However, he does need to step up and take over the bulk of caring duties from you at weekends and evenings and some overnights.
It is utterly unreasonable of him to exploit your kind heartedness in this way. Insist he takes over from you some of the time. And use that time to rest and look after your own physical and emotional health. You must be utterly drained
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