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My mum died today

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Twinklyfaerieglade Tue 12-Sep-17 22:50:14

It was expected, massively beyond her prognosis.
I am ok sorting big stuff but also irrationally cross with small stuff.
We ended up going out for lunch as dad wanted that. A couple of relatives plus me, dad and my bro.
Bro is wealthy and has taken a back seat for most of mum's 40 year illness. He sat there and just expected me to order, carry drinks and pay for everyone
Why am I so cross about this trivia? My mum just died.

Cantthinkofanythinggood Tue 12-Sep-17 22:54:30

So sorry for your loss Twinkly 💐

I've seen this happen a lot, it's almost as if the big stuff is too much to process so the small stuff is easier to focus on. A lot of families go through strange tensions during grief, I think it's totally normal. Give yourself (and possibly ur brother but I've no idea) a break. You're all hurting & dealing with it all in your own ways x

ssd Tue 12-Sep-17 22:56:09


because it's the trivia that really hurts when you're hurting already
I'm so sorry about your mum

when you are ready, come over to this thread, you won't feel so alone x

Tia4 Tue 12-Sep-17 22:56:43

I'm sorry to hear about your mum. Take care of yourself and those you love flowers

stopbeingadramallama Tue 12-Sep-17 22:58:21

Sorry to hear about your mum x

pleasestopsnoring Tue 12-Sep-17 23:00:02

Sorry, losing a parent is shit. hope your brother steps up.
Look after yourself and your dad x

mamamac101 Tue 12-Sep-17 23:08:47

Sorry to hear about your mum x

TheSerengeti Tue 12-Sep-17 23:12:26

Sorry about your mum flowers

MyBrilliantDisguise Tue 12-Sep-17 23:13:26

So sorry. I'm dreading this myself. Your bloody brother - honestly, some people are useless!


cinders15 Tue 12-Sep-17 23:24:12

So sorry to hear your pain, Twinkly
I'm just thinking of my my mum - she would have been 91 today
She died March 2016
On the anniversary of her death I talked to my brother to see if he was ok - but he hadn't e en remembered - just said "oh yes - I was in Bordeaux a year ago wasn't I"
Brothers can be crap!! flowers

MarshmallowFluffee Tue 12-Sep-17 23:29:02

I'm very sorry for your loss Twinkly.
There's no right or wrong to anything you are doing or feeling at the moment. It's just a case of putting one foot in front of the other and do what you can. Huge hugs to you.

echt Wed 13-Sep-17 09:35:29

Sorry for your loss, Twinkly.

It is the mundane that finds us out, because that's what we'll be doing every day, long after the immediate pain and grief and busy-ness subside. Sorry your brother not stepping up.


PinkFluffyFairy Wed 13-Sep-17 18:31:57

Sorry you've lost your mum. X

PerfumeIsAMessage Wed 13-Sep-17 18:36:48

So sorry for your loss.

Mamabear4180 Wed 13-Sep-17 18:37:48

I'm so sorry for your loss flowers

ajandjjmum Wed 13-Sep-17 18:53:28

Sorry for your loss.

whatisforteamum Thu 14-Sep-17 22:15:01

So sorry for your loss.My Dad died Monday.It is always the small stuff I snapped at D's for not washing up while I was helping DM clear Dads stuffsad I had warned him to help more.Look after yourself x

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