please can we all have a 2 minute silence

[nappyaddict]

i have just found out my cousin's niece was rushed into hospital monday with meningitus. she was only a year older than me. within hours she had got brain damage and we were told yesterday she only had an hour and a half to live. she made it through the night but now the family have decided to turn off the life support machine. it's happening at 10 so that's probably about now. it's so difficult to imagine. i didn't even know her that well, but i saw her at the weekend and she was fine. at least she's already done so much (went to india last year) and was loving university. i keep wondering why terrible things keep happening to my family and why it never happens to the bad people in the world. i'm generally not very religious but i would like to ask those that that are if they could all pray for her and the family. i can't even imagine how they are going to explain to my cousin's children they are only 4 and 7. when my brother died the eldest was only 2 and didn't understand at all so in a way it was easier, but at 4 they know so much more, yet they understand so little at the same time. anyway i realise i am babbling and through writing so much she has now gone ... gone for good

[BandofMothers]

Nappyaddict, so for you and your family. Hope her dc's are ok, and all of you.
Death is so hard, but more so when it is so sudden. Have recently had a death in the family, and we are all reeling still, was in Nov.
Not religious myself in a christian/catholic way, butsympathies for your loss.

[nappyaddict]

we had a really bad year almost 6 years ago (really can't believe it was that long!!) where my brother died (suddenly), my cousin's nan died (old age, so were expecting it to happen soon, but still somewhat suddenly) and my cousin's boss (again suddenly) who was a friend of the family. i just hope for this year we don't get a similar pattern. i really feel like i should do something, but i know nobody can really do anything except listen, hug you and offer condolances which seem like nothing but can actually be a great deal! no they don't help as such but it's nice to know people care. i've been there and would like to be there for the younger sister, but we aren't that close ... maybe it would be weird i duno.

[brimfull]

how sad

[Hulababy]

So sorry My thoughts are with you and all those affected.

[thelittleElf]

Oh my goodness. This is sad, so very very sad. I'm so sorry for your loss
Big hugs x

[PenelopePitstops]

napyaddict for you and all your family.

A friend had his life support machine turned off yesterday aged only 20 after pneumonia. he was also enjoying university Now he is gone the pain is awful and I will pray for you, him and all your family.

[KittyLetteMeEatAnEasterEgg]

i have said a prayer for her and her family xx

[HotXMum]

[nappyaddict]

penelope, if you don't mind me asking what happend to him?

[sassy]

How horrid for your family nappyaddict.

(Have replied to your email BTW)

[staceym11]

hope you can help the family get through this! must be an awful time! sending prayers and thoguhts your way!

[Charleesunnysunsun]

I am so sorry for your family nappyaddict. Ds was rushed to hospital with Men C before xmas thankfully he is ok but it was heart breaking and terrifying.

Thinking of you all xxx

[BandofMothers]

NA, if you are not that close then perhaps this would be a nice time to become close. She may really appreciate that you want to be there for her.
(Obv by nice time, I mean good time, not nice-think you know what I mean!!!)

[nappyaddict]

don't worry i know what you meant!! i always worry about how i word things too...

it must be the hardest decision deciding to turn off a machine that is essentially keeping the person you love alive. she was brain dead though, so even if there was any hope of her living there wouldn't really have been any of her there living iyswim.

she has a younger sister, well i suppose had a younger sister now. really can't get my head around the fact she's not here anymore. i want to be there for her more than anyone, because i know what it's like to lose a sibling at such a young age. she isn't much older than i was when my brother died.

[talcyone]

Sorry, nappyaddict
sending my love x

[PenelopePitstops]

nappyaddict he had a viral infection which led to undiagnosed pneumonia, he ended up in a coma and never came out

thinking of you

[nappyaddict]

same thing almost happened to my sister. they told her it was viral so she went home and it was only cos she lived virtualy next door to the hospital that she went back in the morning where she was told she had pneumonia.

[littleEasterlapin]

So sorry for your loss, nappyaddict

[GibbonInARibbon]

nappyaddict - I lost my brother very suddenly too
Just want to send my best to you and will say a prayer
x

[Lullabyloo]

so sorry nappyaddict.x

[harpsichordcarrier]

nappyaddict I am very sorry for your loss, and my thoughts are with your family

[potoroo]

Prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

[nappyaddict]

the funeral was yesterday - very moving indeed. i keep thinking i can't imagine what her sister is going through. i know i've been through it but its almost like i've forgotten the raw pain that you get at the beginning.

[talcyegg]

Sorry for your pain nappys, sorry don't have anything wiser to say.
Sending my love x