Hi everyone
I am a long time lurker here on MN but this is my first real post and I would like some advice please as i dont know where else to turn
I lost my wonderful Nan early this year, she was in her late 60s I was pregnant with my 2nd child who is now a happy healthy baby
I guess i am posting as I am really struggling inside with her loss.
I cannot face it or think about it without feeling like I am about to collapse and shut down inside. I figure its easier, in a way, to ignore it and not deal with it, than face the reality of her not being here and at least be able to try and keep it together for my children.
I have no one really to speak to in RL as the consensus seems to be that everyone should expect to lose their grandparent, and while there is alot of truth in that, I feel the relationship I had was different, she raised me since I was a baby, I lived with her and my grandad til i moved out of home after i finished university.
She was my mum in alot of respects, she always fought in my corner whether i was right or wrong, she gave me a warm and loving home, encouraged me to do my best and without her care and love I can honestly say my life would be very different to what it is. I would have more than likely have been placed in care.
Even after I left home, (I moved to another part of the country) I spoke to her everyday on the phone and visited twice a month, she kept my room the same and it was always a very warm welcome when I came home, even more so after I had my first child.
She adored my DC1 and spoilt her rotten and even though she is just
2.5 she talks about her nan and asks me where she is, I haven't the heart to tell her anything other than she has gone to live on the moon ( i had no idea what to say other than that)
She became quite ill the middle of last year and deteriorated quite rapidly, after her last hospital admission I would travel home nearly every weekend and use all holiday from work to help my grandad care for her, he cared for her up until her passing.
Strangely it never entered my head once that I would lose her, I always maintained hope that she would get better and back to the fierce loving woman she was.
I still make the journey home with my children just not as often and they get to spend time with their grandad who equally adores them, but for me i struggle, her absence is felt in the very bricks of the house.
I apologise for the essay but I guess what I am asking is if there is any advice on how to maybe face or deal with the grief that losing someone so close to you brings
Thank you
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