Should we send sympathy cards?

[Iris65]

I am not sure if this the right place for this question.

However, my FIL has just died. I have only met my DP's family once as they live in another country. Do we send sympathy cards?

Thanks in advance,

[MaudGonneMad]

Are you not travelling to the funeral?

[PestoSnowissimos]

Yes I would

[123rd]

Is your oh going back for the funeral ? If a member of my partners immediate family died I would be going back( if at all possible ) for the funeral

[HateSummer]

Such a close family member, I wouldn't send a card, I'd try to phone up and talk to someone and pass my condolences.

[bimbobaggins]

If this is your dp father what has died then no I wouldn't send sympathy cards as he is part of the bereaved family. Plus I'd try to go to the funeral.

[Iris65]

Oh yes, we are going to the funeral but because we're not in the same country I wondered whether to send cards in advance.
Thanks for all of the advice.

[Cel982]

No, I wouldn't be sending sympathy cards in that situation - your DH would be expecting to receive them, if anything.

[123rd]

I agree. Thought you meant in lieu of attending. No, I wouldn't send a card to mother in law

[2gorgeousboys]

My father in law died last year and we didn't send a card. We did however receive quite a few.

[Iris65]

Yes that's what I thought, but I don't have a lot of experience with bereavement and the associated expectations.
Thank you

[PollytheDolly]

No you don't need to send cards, you're immediate family.