Should we send sympathy cards?

(12 Posts)
Iris65 Mon 13-Mar-17 10:14:36

I am not sure if this the right place for this question.

However, my FIL has just died. I have only met my DP's family once as they live in another country. Do we send sympathy cards?

Thanks in advance,

MaudGonneMad Mon 13-Mar-17 10:16:10

Are you not travelling to the funeral?

PestoSnowissimos Mon 13-Mar-17 10:21:15

Yes I would

123rd Mon 13-Mar-17 10:22:58

Is your oh going back for the funeral ? If a member of my partners immediate family died I would be going back( if at all possible ) for the funeral

HateSummer Mon 13-Mar-17 10:25:46

Such a close family member, I wouldn't send a card, I'd try to phone up and talk to someone and pass my condolences.

bimbobaggins Mon 13-Mar-17 17:37:08

If this is your dp father what has died then no I wouldn't send sympathy cards as he is part of the bereaved family. Plus I'd try to go to the funeral.

Iris65 Tue 14-Mar-17 15:48:37

Oh yes, we are going to the funeral but because we're not in the same country I wondered whether to send cards in advance.
Thanks for all of the advice.

Cel982 Tue 14-Mar-17 15:54:12

No, I wouldn't be sending sympathy cards in that situation - your DH would be expecting to receive them, if anything.

123rd Tue 14-Mar-17 16:49:21

I agree. Thought you meant in lieu of attending. No, I wouldn't send a card to mother in law

2gorgeousboys Tue 14-Mar-17 16:58:43

My father in law died last year and we didn't send a card. We did however receive quite a few.

Iris65 Tue 14-Mar-17 16:59:41

Yes that's what I thought, but I don't have a lot of experience with bereavement and the associated expectations.
Thank you

PollytheDolly Tue 14-Mar-17 17:13:10

No you don't need to send cards, you're immediate family.

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