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My lovely lovely friend

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lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:00

It would have been her birthday this weekend. She passed away 4 years ago. I rarely post on here and certainly not about this. I miss her a lot, but I know that's my gig not hers.
Ah well, not sure what response I am looking for, more just to share how bloody ace she was xx

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Guitargirl · 25/02/2017 01:08

Flowers

Are you in touch with her family?

bellabelly · 25/02/2017 01:10

Aw. She does sound bloody ace. How lucky she was to have had a great friend like you. How did you meet her?

lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:11

Yes, I am. They are great, but I don't see a lot of them.

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lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:12

Must be careful not to out either of us, but we worked together, a long time ago.

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Guitargirl · 25/02/2017 01:13

Maybe you can gain some comfort from each other this weekend. Do something lovely together (or separately) to remember your lovely friend?

RooDaisy · 25/02/2017 01:15

Happy Birthday to your ace mate. Xx

lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:17

You are right - we are all getting together this weekend to raise a glass and remember her. It's the first time we have since.

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lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:18

Thanks Roodaisy xx

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RooDaisy · 25/02/2017 01:24

lovesxmas I lost my Nan in October and she was my bestest friend in the whole wide world.

It's so fucking shit. I'm having happy moments that are bittersweet because my best friend is not here but to celebrate how special my Nan is(was) I'm going to have a star named after her.

Let's talk about your best friend and mine

RooDaisy · 25/02/2017 01:27

I didn't mean to hijack and make it about me and my pain. I'm there with you though Flowers

lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:27

I'm 4 years in and it does get abit easier to handle. Tell me about your nan xx

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bellabelly · 25/02/2017 01:29

Colleagues that go on to become friends are the best! There's something really special about sharing the good times and the bad, day in and day out. My ex-colleagues have kept me sane during difficult times and some have stayed very close friends. Hope it's a comfort to you to meet up with your friend's family this weekend. It must be nice for them to know that she is remembered. x

lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:34

You are spot on. Her family love that we remember her all the time. Argh, why do these things happen? If she was here right now, we'd be mischiefing somewhere. (Mischiefing, is that a word?)

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bellabelly · 25/02/2017 01:36

It should be a word! Grin

RooDaisy · 25/02/2017 01:37

My Nan was the best.

Strong, funny, proud and the one person who I knew always, always put me first.
She couldn't really leave her house on her own but when I got sad cos my family never came to see me (still don't), she'd say, right, there must be a bus, I'm coming. I'm on my way.

At my brother's wedding in August, I took her to her room for a nap and said, ooh Nan, Stephen is my best friend, he's lovely (he's my best gay mate) she coughed and said, excuse me, WHO'S your best friend??!!
I said, Sorry Nan, after you, he's my best mate.

lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:37

Ha! I agree! It's certainly a lot of fun! Abit of mischief never did anyone any harm xx

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RooDaisy · 25/02/2017 01:38

Laughing faces x 5

lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:38

She sounds fabulous. Particularly the bit about being proud and putting you first. What an awesome lady

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RooDaisy · 25/02/2017 01:40

She was. X

lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:43

Am so happy that someone, never mind two of you actually replied! Thank you! I've lurked on here for a long time, and love that people actually care at 1.30am! Xxx

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RooDaisy · 25/02/2017 01:55

Flowers for you and your friend

I'll raise a glass tomorrow xxx

lovesxmas · 25/02/2017 01:57

Thanks Roo! She'd love that we are talking and remembering her.

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echt · 25/02/2017 08:03

I'm raising a glass now, lovesxmas, in the Australian evening. Blanc cassis, since you asked. Smile Wine

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