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please help, DF in Intensive care in Crete. Not going to recover.

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GhostInTheBackOfYourHead · 07/07/2016 13:26

My darling DF suffered a tragic accident 4 hours after arriving. He suffered catastrophic , irreversible brain damage and will be taken off life support in a few days.
I am here with my children and we were due to fly back on Tuesday. I was going to ask consulate about getting help getting escort for children in flights home.
I cannot afford to pay for him to be flown home for burial. All the money is in Jim's account. That money is for my son but I'm getting pressure from his family to bring him back. Also they don't seem to do cremations here so that might not be an option.
Travel insurance won't pay as he jumped off a 3rd floor balcony,
I guess I'm asking for help advice and guidance, where do I start.
My heart is broken .

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GhostInTheBackOfYourHead · 07/07/2016 13:31

I just found out consulate is closed now until Tuesday morning hence my post on here.

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Bails2014 · 07/07/2016 13:34

Oh gosh, I am so sorry.

Link to Citizen's Advice: www.citizensadvice.org.uk/relationships/death-and-wills/what-to-do-if-someone-dies-abroad/

Not sure if that is any help?

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JennyOnAPlate · 07/07/2016 13:35

I'm so sorry Flowers

Have you spoken to someone in charge at the insurance company rather than just the person who answered the phone?

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ninenicknames · 07/07/2016 13:40

But if it was an accident, why are insurance saying he jumped?

I am so terribly sorry for you.

This at such a terrible situation for you.

Sad

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chicaguapa · 07/07/2016 13:42

Gosh! How awful!

Do you mean DFather or DFriend?

That link to the Citizen's Advice looks quite good. Where is the next nearest consulate if the one on Crete is closed till Tuesday? Maybe try there? Or go straight to the one in Athens and let them suggest where to try next.

Flowers

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/07/2016 13:45

Oh gosh I'm so sorryFlowers

Insurance- you need to speak to soneone properly also someone at the embassy before making any decisions.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/07/2016 13:45

Yep, Athens is a good idea.

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MissTeriName · 07/07/2016 13:50

So sorry to hear this.

The Consulate will have staff available by phone for emergencies but I am sure they cannot proved escorts for your children. The airline probably would cover this, so get in touch with them for information on unaccompanied minors.

I'm sure you've got these but the phone number for Crete +30 2810 224012

Alternatively, Athens +30 210 7272600 emergency number.

Did he have travel insurance? That should cover repatriation.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/07/2016 13:51

Also if you paid for tickets with credit card this should cover things like traveling back etc I think.

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MissTeriName · 07/07/2016 13:55

Sorry, I missed that about his insurance company.
You do need to get in touch with the Consulate / Embassy though because - really sorry to be so horribly blunt in such a dreadful situation - his death needs to be registered by them.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 07/07/2016 13:56

Have you spoken to anyone at the hospital? I'm sure they can help.

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DetestableHerytike · 07/07/2016 13:57

Can anyone in his family fly out?

I'm so sorry

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LIZS · 07/07/2016 13:59

Sorry for the dreadful circumstances you are in. Did you book through a tour operator, could a travel rep help you even if not from the same company? Or the hotel manager locate a consulate representative on your behalf on the mainland if needs be. Call the insurer again too and see if they will make arrangements and argue about costs later, are you all on the same policy?

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CrazyDuchess · 07/07/2016 13:59

Is this your fiance? I am sorry Flowers

Yes can his family help you?

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BitOutOfPractice · 07/07/2016 14:00

Oh my goodness how awful I'm so sorry. Have you tried the embassy in Athens? I don't know what to suggest but you have my utmost sympathy

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reallyanotherone · 07/07/2016 14:00

Has anyone brought up organ donation?

I am sorry for your loss and all that you are going through. If he isn't related to you (not sure if DF is father or friend) then can his family pay for the repatriation if they want him brought home?

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SugarMiceInTheRain · 07/07/2016 14:21

No advice here really, but I am so sorry Thanks Insurers often try to weasel their way out of coughing up when something happens, but I would keep trying to pursue them.

My MIL died on the way back from holiday, having fallen ill before they left - plane made an emergency detour to try to save her, and FIL and BIL had to stay abroad for some time before she was brought back, but insurance did cover repatriation costs.

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Tiggeryoubastard · 07/07/2016 14:38

^ sugar we don't know the insurers are trying to 'weasel' their way out of paying. If what happened isn't covered then it isn't covered. Not matter how sad, that's the way it is.
Op I'm guessing you're frantic now, I hope you get some help from the numbers above and from anyone else that can help.

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WhoTheFuckIsSimon · 07/07/2016 14:42

There must be an emergency person at the embassy who is there even at weekends, etc. I'm so sorry.

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Costacoffeeplease · 07/07/2016 14:44

Can his family not help? One of them fly out to be with you?

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WhoTheFuckIsSimon · 07/07/2016 14:44

There's a phone number here

please help, DF in Intensive care in Crete. Not going to recover.
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idontlikealdi · 07/07/2016 15:14

Hi I'm very sorry for the situation you're in.

My first thought would be that the airline will act as escorts for your children, the consulate wouldn't normally send anyone.

So do you / your df have travel insurance? Repatriation should be covered. Did he jump or was it an accident - sorry to ask but that will affect the insurance.

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hilbil21 · 07/07/2016 15:18

I have worked in travel insurance and any accidents caused by balcony jumping, even if it's from one balcony to the one next door are excluded on most policies now.

His travel insurer emergency medical dept should be able to give advice on coming home etc, even if the costs aren't covered.

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TheHobbitMum · 07/07/2016 16:38

I am so sorry for your loss x

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