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Marking the first anniversary of my baby's death

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Itsalwayssunny Fri 17-Jun-16 21:43:21

Just as the title says really, I know I want to mark the day in some way but I'm not sure how. I like the idea of having something DP and I can then do each year. Does anyone have any suggestions or things that they do to mark the anniversay for their loved ones?

The anniversary of his death is also his birthday as he died a few minutes after he was born because he was very premature.

I was thinking of planting something but would like to do more than just that.

hollypocks Fri 17-Jun-16 21:55:48

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. My friend who lost a daughter at 2.5 years old did indeed plant a tree in her memory and this seemed to give her some comfort, watching it grow in the garden . I always light a candle for each of her birthdays. I hope you gets lots of RL support, the first year is incredibly tough..

Itsalwayssunny Fri 17-Jun-16 22:10:26

Thank you Hollypocks

WelshMoth Sat 18-Jun-16 09:10:17

sunny I am so sorry for your terrible loss. You will carry your baby with you always. All the "firsts" are somehow more raw than others.

I will light a candle.

Itsalwayssunny Sat 18-Jun-16 09:18:11

Thank you Welsh

DropZoneOne Sat 18-Jun-16 09:24:08

I'm sorry for your loss x

Our first daughter was stillborn 9 years ago. We have a memorial stone at a crematorium so every year we go to lay flowers and then have a meal somewhere. We have another daughter now, so she brings something too (garden ornament type thing) and then we have a family day.

The first year is hardest, and I found 5 years hard as well, that felt like a milestone year somehow. Be gentle with yourself x

Itsalwayssunny Sat 18-Jun-16 09:59:34

Thank you dropzone, I'm sorry for your loss too.
We have DS's ashes at home but I like the idea of going somewhere significant to DP and I and laying some flowers there in a similar way to the crematorium.

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