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Mum died this morning

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ididntsignupforthis1 Sun 03-Apr-16 13:29:41

At our house while the carer was here.
We'd moved her to be with us - I'm so glad. We hadn't been close for ages but it's been nice to have her
She had copd and was 90.
Waiting for the gp oncall to come.

Abraid2 Sun 03-Apr-16 13:32:34

I am so sorry.

BIWI Sun 03-Apr-16 13:33:24

I'm sorry flowers

RoundTheBend Sun 03-Apr-16 13:35:03

So sorry to hear this. flowers

Helenluvsrob Sun 03-Apr-16 13:37:34

My sincere condolences op. Sounds like a good death at a grand age though.

My dad died at 8.45 today too , so I'm a couple of hours ahead of you. We've had the ( rude ) ooh GP and lovely funeral removal gents. I've just got home.

We went through all of this last Feb with mum too so please message me anytime if I can help either with practicalities or just a hand hold.

(Btw just in case you think I'm trolling my posts are in elderly parents - it's a lovely board)

veryproudvolleyballmum Sun 03-Apr-16 13:44:44

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ididntsignupforthis1 Sun 03-Apr-16 13:57:30

Unsure what I do now
Practically and what to say to my uncle (dad's side)
She had me, no contact for years with 2 brothers in Germany (no idea of addresses and if they are alive), my dad's 2 siblings are alive and they also hadn't seen her for years. My uncle I should tell and he can tell their side.
She had said she didn't want a funeral after my dad died and apart from me and dh and 4 adult kids she has nobody else to go.
She wanted to be cremated with my dad. (in a different town - so how does that work?)

JonathanSmith78 Sun 03-Apr-16 13:59:54

I'm sorry too. I know how it feels.

ididntsignupforthis1 Sun 03-Apr-16 14:00:57

I didn't think I'd be so upset
I've been sitting in the front room with her

Helenluvsrob Sun 03-Apr-16 14:10:14

Gosh that's a complex family dynamic sad
Can't help you with that I'm afraid.

However - straight to the crematorium no funeral service is definitely an option. It will be assumed you will have a service though so you might have to be clear. Cremation elsewhere is also possible but depending on how you feel about transport of bodies - your funeral director can arrange it.gettibg the body from lands end to John o'groats or what ever can be by hearse of course ( costly if it's far) but you can pop a coffin in a large car to transport of you want.

ididntsignupforthis1 Sun 03-Apr-16 14:32:04

Does anyone know - how to go about a direct cremation?

wombattoo Sun 03-Apr-16 14:36:50

So sorry for your loss OP. thanks
To arrange your own cremation, you would need to contact your local council. An undertaker could arrange this for you without the need for a funeral. I think the paperwork is quite tricky.

raininginspringtime Sun 03-Apr-16 14:38:55

I'm so sorry for your loss. flowers

beepbeep Sun 03-Apr-16 14:41:27

speak with the under takers - they will be able to answer your questions re cremation, they will have dealt with similar before I'm sure.

So sorry for your loss, & same to you Helen

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