DD & I have new outfits (my mum has a new top)
The food is booked; loads more people coming than we expected
DD is singing (I am panicking) & her accompaniment is finally sorted
I'm stressing a bit 
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It's my dad's funeral tomorrow
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Katymac · 17/03/2016 22:20
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bakeoffcake ·
17/03/2016 22:25
It's very natural to feel stressed. It's a horrible, horrible time, but you will get through it.
Support each other, and give each other lots of hugs tomorrow 
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Allalonenow ·
17/03/2016 22:27
I hope you have plenty of support to help get you through a difficult day. It's my Mum's anniversary this week so it's brought back memories of how hard and painful it was.
I'm sure it will be a comfort to you to have your lovely daughter with you.
All the best to you and your family. 
PacificDogwod ·
17/03/2016 22:59
Katymac, I am so sorry to hear about your father having passed away. My sincere condolences
You know your DD will do you (an him!) proud, I know you know that.
Wishing you love and strength to get through the day and for the future.
springscoming ·
17/03/2016 23:00
Would it help DD if there was someone standing near her who could join in or carry on the song if she can't continue? Just the idea of the support/Plan B might be enough. It's hard to sing through strong emotions like grief, especially if the notes are high. Everyone will understand, though.
Katymac ·
17/03/2016 23:06
Our friend is playing - so if DD can't sing she will just play the tune; I do think people will join in if she falters as it's a sing everyone knows & my dad was in a choir!!
But DD says it's just a performance, an important one admittedly but just a performance
Thanks PacificDogwod
Tomorrow I need to find out if the crem has a piano (or I need to pack one 
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ouryve ·
17/03/2016 23:07
It'll be fine.
You'll blub a bit. A lot. Then you'll be relieved it's over and that you can finally concentrate on the what's next.
As an aside, I wasn't involved in picking the music or any of the arrangements for FIL's funeral earlier this month, but the final song was some Al Jolson. While the artist is far from PC, the song itself was so him and everyone laughed, as the curtains in the crematorium were closing. Just a perfect relief from the sadness.
Finola1step ·
17/03/2016 23:16
I hope tomorrow goes as well as planned and I'm really sorry for your loss .
My Dad died nearly 3 years ago. I was knocked sideways and there have been difficult times. But, although I will never get over it, I have learnt to live with it. And its ok.
I more time pottering in the garden in the months after he died. Not that he was any good at gardening!
And today I realised that I have a PTA meeting booked on the evening of the anniversary. At the time he passed. I probably wont feel like going and last year I wouldn't have gone. But this year I will. Because Dad would approve of me doing something for the dc and their school mates.
I will be thinking of you tomorrow.
ImperialBlether ·
18/03/2016 23:04
for you, Katymac. I'm going to go through the same after Easter and I'm dreading it.
ApplesinmyPocket ·
19/03/2016 09:45
Brave DD for singing, bless her. It was a lovely thing to do. Glad you waved him off in style. Love and xx
Katymac ·
19/03/2016 10:26
She did it so well; she went a bit wobbly on the first verse but once she got to "Shine on Silver Girl" her voice dropped, strengthened and she belted it out
My Dad used to call her Silver Girl 
The celebrant said he hates 'kids' singing at funerals but he was really impressed with DD
None of the family knew she could "sing too!"......I was a bit 
- I mean she is doing MT
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