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Missing mum so much

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Timandtopsy · 02/06/2015 07:36

Nearly six months later and it's not getting any easier, miss her so much and cry every night still. Others seem to be moving on already, I know we deal with things in different ways but I feel is too soon to not grieve if that makes sense? Sad

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MajesticWhine · 02/06/2015 14:22

Sorry for your loss. Don't compare yourself to others, because as you say, everyone's different. Sadness is entirely appropriate.
Would you feel guilty if you were not grieving and if you started to feel better? What would your mum want?

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Yorkshirebornandbread · 05/06/2015 21:49

It's really hard - my dad died 6 weeks ago and the pain is horrendous, I adored him. Feel as though I can only cry when alone because I've got to just get on with life. Nobody wants to talk about it any more. We can on here though. So sorry for your loss xx

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justnippingin · 05/06/2015 22:02

My Mum died 13 years ago. I miss her. I loved her so much. Everyone is different in their grieving. It doesn't get easier for me. Give yourself a chance to find a level. It's early days. .

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Stitchintime1 · 05/06/2015 22:04

It's a sad time. I'm sorry. Don't worry about others and how they are handling things. Just take the days as they come.

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Weebirdie · 05/06/2015 22:09

I lost my mum 15 years ago and at 57 I still don't feel old enough to be without her. So really, I just want to say I understand and to acknowledge what you are all going through. xxxxx

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Sparkygal · 06/06/2015 09:02

I know exactly how you feel. I lost my mum 6 months ago too and am the same as you. To everyone else I look fine now as I know you have to 'just get on with it' but I have tears every day too. I miss her so much. Hugs to you Thanks

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Kahlua4me · 07/06/2015 20:01

I think it is best to take each day as it comes and not to worry about others and how they are dealing with it.

My Mum died last week in an accident and I can't see how I will ever feel any differently. There are moments when the pain is so bad I can hardly breathe, but other times when I can chat or play with my dc and it is still there but subdued.

Take care of yourself and slowly you will learn to manage it and your new normal will emerge.

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ButtonMoon88 · 08/06/2015 09:00

Hello, I also lost my dad to cancer. He had a very short illness, 6months from diagnosis to passing away.

Two years on and I am still grieving. However I don't cry every day and now I am able to look back and laugh as opposed to get upset. My brother, my mom and myself are all dealing with this very differently. I've had a course of anti-depressants and counselling which really worked for me, however wouldn't work for everyone.

You have to take each day as it comes and don't ever ever feel bad for your emotions. I had days where I was jealous of friends because they still had their dad. I got mad at people who didn't spend enough time and care with their parents and literally went out of my mind. But i got through it.

Don't be hard on yourself and don't compare your grief. Have you tried talking to anyone? Friends? Family? Macmillan have a great service where you can talk online to a buddy. It's all done via email, they will pair you with someone who had had a similar experience and you can talk through it. I am currently a buddy and it's such an incredible way of trying to figure out what you are going through and how to manage it.

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Enkopkaffetak · 08/06/2015 19:35

My mum died a week ago and I still feel numb most of the time I can't imagine ever being at a point where there is not a slight shock that she is no longer " here". She was not actually a part of my every day life as I am in the UK and she was in Denmark. However she was " there" and now she is not. That's not how it is meant to be wont ever be.

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bobthebuddha · 11/06/2015 20:20

Timandtopsy (and everyone); so sorry for your loss. My mum is near the end and I'm sitting on a train hoping I get there in time. She's had dementia for years and its been a very long grieving process which is about to get much harder. I think its okay to accept the pain and to know it will never go fully, just diminish slightly. I loved (love) her so much.

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