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I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

quietlysuggests Sat 14-Feb-15 03:12:33

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RhinestoneCowgirl Sat 14-Feb-15 03:13:02

So sorry sad

Arsenic Sat 14-Feb-15 03:13:44

I'm so sorry Calculators flowers

No hope. They've been very clear.

CameliousHumph Sat 14-Feb-15 03:14:48

So so sorry. Do you have family around for support?

madwomanbackintheattic Sat 14-Feb-15 03:16:32

So sorry, wheredo. Do you have any children or family close by?

TheGirlAtTheRockShow Sat 14-Feb-15 03:19:55

I'm so sorry.
Do you have some RL support?

ishouldcocoa Sat 14-Feb-15 03:20:05

Calculators I'm not sure what to say other than I'm so sorry, and here's a big hug ((((((((((. )))))))))).

Get some sleep. I bet you need it.

I have 2 children and my dad. They are 18 and 22.

Still my children even though they are big

AcrossthePond55 Sat 14-Feb-15 03:25:41

You are in my prayers. I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you're going through, but you and your children are in my prayers.

Please remember to take care of yourself. And don't be afraid to ask anybody around you for help and support.

stareatthetvscreen Sat 14-Feb-15 03:26:01

what awful news - here's another hug xx

Reallyme71 Sat 14-Feb-15 03:29:34

I am so sorry flowers I wish you had someone there with you to just sit and keep you company and hold your hand...

PotteringAlong Sat 14-Feb-15 03:30:27

Oh my lovely sad

Arsenic Sat 14-Feb-15 03:31:07

Are they with you? We're here.

Do you have decisions about organ donation to make?

You must have things you want to say to him before he goes.

Are there other practicalities that need decisions?

It must be such a shock. Tell us if it helps.

Iamfrankieheck Sat 14-Feb-15 03:44:02

I'm so very sorry, your mind must be all over the place...

Have the doctors given you any indication of what to expect? Do you have someone there who can hold your hand and help you through this op? I hope so.
Keep posting on here if it helps you, I'm sure you will get lots of support. Will be thinking of you flowers

HoundoftheBaskervilles Sat 14-Feb-15 03:50:48

Where, you're in my thoughts.

My heart goes out to you.

Such hard work and sorrow.

It will never be right.

marriedtoagoodun Sat 14-Feb-15 03:52:20

It is nearly midday here in Australia and I will be at the computer for the next few hours. More than happy to hold your hand through the night. I am so sorry for the terrible place you find yourself in. Sending you a virtual hug.

Atthebackwiththeraffia Sat 14-Feb-15 03:53:03

Just to say that you are being thought of and hope that you will get through the coming days- no words to say really - just that hope you get some rest and lots of support xx

MapofTassie Sat 14-Feb-15 03:54:25

I'm so sorry to hear this. Mumnetters are all over the world (I'm in Australia), so there's always someone 'here'. thanks

I tried to roll over and go back to sleep but failed. I've slept from 10-3.
Maybe I should go for a shower now and see if I can sleep again after.

rustyrailings Sat 14-Feb-15 03:59:44

What a terrible shock OP, too sudden to take on board.

There will be many people thinking of you today, not just the ones who post, but you will know that. flowers

HicDraconis Sat 14-Feb-15 04:00:49

So sorry for you flowers brew

Hope your family are close to you for the next little while. In NZ, so often awake and posting at odd hours if you need company.

I'm expecting that they will confirm there's no brain activity in the morning. Decisions, I guess.

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