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to feel I missed out of grieving for my dad

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tobytomcat88 Wed 11-Feb-15 14:44:49

My dad died suddenly when I was 6 months pregnant. I have 2 younger brother 20 & 18. at the time of his death I was off ill and my brothers were both at college. He had a gf who I did not get on with who didn't want anything to do with arrangements, funeral or otherwise so it was all left to me.

I had to arrange the funeral sort out the will, finances and declaring his death to what felt like the world all whilst being ill and pregnant.

I feel like I was so busy sorting things I didn't have time to stop and grieve

does that make sense?

CalicoBlue Wed 11-Feb-15 16:37:38

I am sorry for your loss. It sounds that you had a hard time and everything was left to you.

I know when my father died, it was only after the funeral and all the family nonsense had finished that I felt I could mourn him. Then I could remember him as I wanted to, I could look at photos and spend quiet time thinking about him.

We can mourn at any time, and I don't think there is a time limit on it. Maybe you can make time for thinking about him now. Is there a charity he supported? can you do something for them in his name. I have a charity page with a charity related to the illness that killed him and on his birthday I make a donation.

Is there somewhere you used to go with him? maybe a visit would make you feel better.

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