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My beautiful mum died tonight

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mandywb Wed 03-Dec-14 22:34:29

I am totally heartbroken. We knew it was coming as were told there was nothing more could be done, but I think I am in shock.

I don't know how we carry on without her, she was only 65 and everything to us. My dad is devastated, as is my brother.

We stayed in the hospital with her all last night and today and leaving her there alone tonight after it happened was the hardest thing I think I have ever done.

I told my children when I came home (10 and 12) who were very close to her and adored her. I expected them to be a bit upset but both were so so upset, their reaction took me by surprise a little.

I don't know what I am going to do without her. We were so close, we spoke every day, went out walks every weekend and just chatted.

I feel numbness, pain, immense hurt and fear because I won't be able to see/speak to her ever again.

autumnboys Wed 03-Dec-14 22:36:25

I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

needastrongone Wed 03-Dec-14 22:36:29

I don't have any clever words, but I am very sorry for your loss.

Your mum sounds lovely.

ExitPursuedByABear Wed 03-Dec-14 22:37:51

So sorry.

You will be fine because she was your mum and that is what she would have wanted.

Stay strong.

cherrymix Wed 03-Dec-14 22:38:17

How terribly sad for you and your family. She must have been a very special person to all of you.

Crikeyblimey Wed 03-Dec-14 22:38:21

So sorry for your loss.

My mum died 2 years ago. Shot isn't it?

Be kind to yourself xx

Crikeyblimey Wed 03-Dec-14 22:40:42

Sorry for the typo.

Should have said 'shit isn't it'.

I have no other words but just know people are thinking if you and even though it feels like the world should stop for a while, and yet it seems to carry on, I have stopped for a moment with you x

LakeOfDreams Wed 03-Dec-14 22:41:03

I'm sorry for your loss, sounds like you had a wonderful relationship with her flowers

ExitPursuedByABear Wed 03-Dec-14 22:41:14

Did you hold her hand as she she died? I did for mine. She was there when I came into the world, and I was there when she left it. I then went home to bed and dd who was 3 at the time held my wrist and I felt the whole cyclical nature of everything.

TheWindowDonkey Wed 03-Dec-14 22:41:16

Sorry for your loss Mandywb. . flowers

apotatoprintinapeartree Wed 03-Dec-14 22:42:08

I am so sorry and can remember those feelings.
Sometimes our closest family can surprise us with their reaction, because there is no right or wrong way to feel.
Bless you all thanks x

Ikeameatballs Wed 03-Dec-14 22:42:41

I'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely mum.

It sounds like she has given you a lifetime of happy memories, love and kindness to treasure.

PacificDogwood Wed 03-Dec-14 22:43:25

Oh, I am so sorry for your loss, my sincere condolences.

It sounds like she was such an important part of your lives and that she will be sorely missed for a long time.

AlfAlf Wed 03-Dec-14 22:45:07

I'm so sorry for your loss.
My mum is the same age, it's no age to die sad
In a way I think it's very healthy that your children were so upset, they must have loved her dearly.

theeternalstudent Wed 03-Dec-14 22:45:31

sorry for your loss of your lovely mum flowers

Bimblepops Wed 03-Dec-14 22:45:39

I'm so sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to grieve. Your mother was obviously very loved and she would have known and felt that tonight. Take care. X

TeaMakesItAllPossible Wed 03-Dec-14 22:47:09

I'm so very sorry. Sending you thoughts from afar

DoItTooJulia Wed 03-Dec-14 22:49:12

awww, honey, love and strength to you. flowers

Drania Wed 03-Dec-14 22:52:04

I'm so sorry for your loss. There's nothing to say that can make it better.

Take care of yourself.

storytopper Wed 03-Dec-14 22:52:26

So sorry to hear about the loss of your lovely Mum. 65 is so young.
Maybe you could make a memory book of photos etc. with your DCs. They might also like to say a little poem or something at the funeral.

IdaClair Wed 03-Dec-14 23:00:07

I am sorry that you lost your mum. I lost mine when she was 54. My dc was only a toddler. It is so unfair.

I made a memory book for her grandchildren. It has helped to keep her alive for them and we still speak about her a lot.

Be gentle with yourself

thewomaninwhite Wed 03-Dec-14 23:00:43

There are no words but I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts. It sounds as if your Mum was an amazing lady. thanks

PurpleAlert Wed 03-Dec-14 23:08:40

So sorry for your loss. I lost my mum after a long and cruel illness in June last year. She was only 67. It's far too young- her own mother only died a few years before that aged 91 and her dad was 92 when he passed away. Just not fair that she didnt even make it to 70.

I found it very difficult to deal with my own DDs' grief. I felt like I couldn't really grieve the way I wanted to (ie. curl up in a ball and howl) as I didn't want them to be even more upset.

Be kind to yourself over the next few weeks.

Thinking of you and your family. x

sunnydaylucy Wed 03-Dec-14 23:13:36

So sorry. No words to try to make it better. Be kind to yourself xx

mandywb Thu 04-Dec-14 09:09:09

Thank you for your kind words. We did hold her hand until the end and that's comforting, but I just feel broken. x

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