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steguy Tue 02-Dec-14 04:29:02

my wife was a member ot this group i have just joined she died on 7-11-14
unfortunatly it was on my birthday and the last words she spoke to me was same happy birthday. i have a 18 year old son just doing his second year of a levels and i have a 15 year old daughter unfortunatly things are going downhill fast its hard enough for me to try and be strong for my kids. as you can imagine i am strong in the day when kids are about but i am heartbroken my soulmate is no longer with me.unfortunatly i have to try and claim benefits at the moment i have put in for widow parents allowence but i am waiting to hear from that still before i can claim any child benefit.
i had to borrow the money for the funeral well 3121 deposit still got 2695 to pay but i think they are ok with payment plan i am not here on any scam i dont want anyones money i just posted looking for a little advice.

steguy Tue 02-Dec-14 04:46:42

message well i got a thing to say about the tories because my wife decided to bring up our children so therefor she hasnt paid enough tax in her life even to get th 2k benefit lump sum. how can you be not taken into account for raising children (deep breath)

jaynebxl Tue 02-Dec-14 05:41:03

I'm sorry to hear your news. I think there is a section in Body and Soul on bereavement where you may get more support than here.

Sorry to hear about your wife but I don't think you'll get much support on this board, it's not the right place. sad

Try again in the Bereavement section - sadly too many other people who have been in your shoes there who will be able to offer advice.

PedantMarina Tue 02-Dec-14 05:52:21

Better still, report your own post to MN, and ask for thus thread to get moved to the right category.

Would you be OK with saying what your wife's MN name was! She might have made some friends on here who would share in your feelings.

thanks to you three.

KateSMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 02-Dec-14 10:00:44

Hello steguy

We're so sorry to hear about your loss. We're just going to move this thread to our bereavement topic, where you may get better support. Wishing you the very best.

PausingFlatly Tue 02-Dec-14 11:28:53

I'm so very sorry to hear about your wife, steguy.

Unless one of you was a higher rate taxpayer, your family should already be receiving child benefit. Can you brave ringing them up, and asking for payments to be transferred to you?

A lot of people have found Winston's Wish very good for advice on supporting the children - while looking after yourself, too.

Wordsaremything Thu 04-Dec-14 20:02:17

I am so very sorry for your loss. Could you possibly get advice from CAB ? And CRUSE may be a source of support for you emotionally?

VivaLeBeaver Thu 04-Dec-14 20:08:46

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Have you got much real life support?

TinyWishes Thu 04-Dec-14 23:08:07

So sorry for your loss. If we can help in anyway let us know. thanksbrew

Antiopa12 Sat 06-Dec-14 13:57:13

I am sorry to hear that you have lost your soulmate.
I also think you should contact the CAB to go through your benefit situation.
I hope they can help you at this difficult time and at least can take some of the worry about your financial situation away from you.

Dowser Mon 15-Dec-14 10:13:15

So sorry to hear of your loss. I was a cruse counsellor. You will get some excellent help from them.

Mind are also very good. See your doctor. There maybe local groups that can offer support.
This is a very busy time of year for these organisations.

Don't struggle on alone. Accept help . If you feel desperate at night ring the Samaritans.

I lost someone very close. It does get easier. Eventually that raw pain subsides.

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