Supposed to be going to a funeral on Thursday but worried about feeling overwhelmed

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foxinsocks Tue 03-Oct-06 19:16:44

our neighbour (and good friend) recently died - she's left behind her daughter who's in her 20s (her only child) who also lives next door and for the last week or so, I've listened to her howling and crying at night .

I haven't really had a chance to get upset about the whole thing because dh has been away for weeks now and I've had my hands full with the kids and trying to help out next door.

But now the funeral is on Thursday and I find myself feeling really apprehensive about it. I, rather thankfully, haven't been to a funeral for ages . I suppose this must be normal but I'll also have PMT and have visions of myself being in floods of tears before it's even started (it's a catholic funeral so will probably go on for ages!).

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saggarmakersbottomknocker Tue 03-Oct-06 19:22:08

Huge sympathy fox. Your poor neighbour.

I had to take dd to her friend's funeral yesterday, he was 12 . I find it really difficult to be publicly emotional and I was worried about seriously losing it in front of her. It was OK, bad, obviously but OK. Try not to worry about it, you're not going to look foolish just because you cry.

TwigTwoolett Tue 03-Oct-06 19:23:27

floods of tears at a funeral are not out of place

why would that worry you?

you may well be overwhelmed

you may well not be

do not worry about how you react the important thing is you go

foxinsocks Tue 03-Oct-06 19:25:39

thanks - that does make me feel better. I think I just need a reality check really.

I think it is just the PMT on top (which makes me feel a bit weird around this time anyway).

oh a 12 yr old's funeral - how sad.

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saggarmakersbottomknocker Tue 03-Oct-06 19:28:14

Sometimes the anticipation is worse than the reality I think.

foxinsocks Tue 03-Oct-06 19:32:21

that's so true

I'm worrying over nothing really - could do with a dh hug but he may not be back so will have to do without!

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foxinsocks Thu 05-Oct-06 13:57:19

well I made it and it was a lovely service. Didn't take the children (and lucky I didn't really because it went on for over an hour and a half and they wouldn't have sat still).

I did take ds to the wake afterwards where he lightened the tone a bit (neighbour absolutely loved small children so I think would have been pleased to have them there larking about a bit!).

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saggarmakersbottomknocker Fri 06-Oct-06 08:55:58

Glad it went OK foxinsocks.

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