It's been 4+ years since my lovely mum died, and my father has a new gf. Just after her death he was full of plans for building a memorial and putting the ashes there, but her ashes are still in a cupboard. It upsets me, and when I ask what/when he's going to do something he becomes vague, and if I push he becomes angry. My mum didn't want to be buried because she was afraid of 'a lonely neglected grave' and I feel so bad that her ashes are in a dark cupboard. She loved the sea, and I'm so tempted to just take her ashes to the cliffs and scatter her. But my dad would probably be furious. I'm an OC and there's no other family.
Any advice is welcome.
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brannagirl · 14/07/2014 18:10
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