I am not sure if I am posting in the right place and I have a separate thread about my marriage breakdown, but I would be interested to hear from others who have been in this situation or have been similarly bereaved as I am really struggling to get my head round it. My husband left me last October for a woman who had lost her husband only 6 months previously in an RTA, so a sudden tragic death following what I believe to have been a happy marriage of some 10 years standing. He moved in with her immediately despite claiming they had been in touch for only 3 weeks (we had known her on and off for around 12 years but my husband said he'd not had any contact with her for 8 of those years) so less than 7 months after her husband died. She has a little boy who I think is around 7 years old. I simply can't understand how you could possibly "move on" at such speed, especially given my husband has left us lock, stock and barrel, giving up EVERYTHING except the clothes on his back for this "new life". I can't understand a mother who would do that to her child, it just astonishes me. They have blamed me entirely for their affair, ongoing relationship and everything else, it was apparently not their doing, only mine. She even used her dead husband and little boy to try and cover up the relationship in the beginning but now insist that everybody is "happy" for them. Really? My Mum died after a 40 year marriage to my Dad, indeed men are a different breed and my Dad did "date" quite quickly but it was clear that it was only because he didn't want to attend social events on his own and the dates were many and varied, not actual relationships. It was 5 years before he felt anywhere near ready for something more and he did indeed re-marry with everybody's blessing. I can understand that, I just don't understand this! My H and I have a 3 year old son, they are desperate to involve him in their lives and play "happy families", I am not prepared to do that just yet, especially under these circumstances. I would be interested to hear others opinions on this. Again, if anybody feels I have posted in the wrong place, please do say especially as this is a bereavement section. Thank you :-)
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