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Ex died suddenly(3 Posts)
Two years ago I posted this http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/divorce_separation/1367499-I-am-desperate-for-help-and-advise on mumsnet and received lots of support and good advice. I left him, moved into my own place and revelled in my new found freedom. If I'm honest, I never for one second mourned the loss of my marriage. Fast forward 2 years and he has been found dead, very unexpectedly. He was the father of my children and understandably they are shocked and sad, and still have lots of unresolved issues.
I feel completely floored and have no idea how I should be feeling or how I should deal with this. The anger I have felt for him genuinely disappeared as soon as I heard of his death (I think). I am so confused, has anybody else ever been in this situation?
I have never been in your situation - but did not want to read & run.
I think you are bound to feel very, very mixed emotions & that there is no 'right' way for you to feel. You are probably going to work your way through a whole range of feelings in the coming weeks, so please be gentle with yourself.
I can not find your link but it maybe due to me using my phone. In summer my exh died unexpectedly we had been separated just over 1 year and recently divorced. I had been dealing with my exh issues for sometime and I can say I felt all my anger evaporate initially occasionally it does resurface but that is how it was for me when he was alive too. If you want to pm me feel free or if you have any questions. I don't know your situation but I would suggest you seek some advice from a solicitor asap in respect of next of kin and inheritance/wills etc. Thinking of you x