My Mum died on the 15th April....she was my best friend, the person I turned to when anything went wrong.
My Mum had been in and out of hospital for two months, nothing major, nothing 'life threatening' (as the doctors put it)
The second time she went in she was full of fluid so they put her on water tablets and told her the tablets might damage her kidneys, my Mum had had kidney problems for about 10 years. (again nothing major, but a low kidney function, so they kept an eye on it. a blood test once a year)
She was home for a week and she couldn't pass urine. She was taken back in to hospital. She spent 2 and a half weeks there and in that time they (the doctors) decided she needed dialysis.
My Mum had a few days of heamodialysis and then opted to have home dialysis. She had the catheter inserted (however she had a massive panic attack in between them doing it so they had to stop and move her) and then came home. She had a few days of going back in to hospital but with help from my DS. She just couldn't go by herself, she was too weak.
My Mum started home dialysis on the 5th April. The dialysis lady called me on the Friday and said 'your Mum isn't coping too well, could you just give her a hand over the weekend'
I was more than willing to get my Mum better so I said yeah no problem. But, my Mum was having other problems going on. She had the most horrendous diarrhea (sp) On the Sunday, my poor Mum had an accident on the kitchen floor and I told her this isn't right Mum, we need to get the GP out.
The GP came out on the Monday, examined her and said that as she had no temperature there was no big problem, just 'something she needs to work through herself'
We carried on, with me helping her with the home dialysis. I went to hers on the Thursday night to do her night bag. As we (me and my husband) were leaving I asked her if she was ok and she said 'i'm fine love, go on you go home, i'll see you in the morning' (I live five doors down) I told her I loved her and she said I love you too.
The next morning I went up to help her with her morning bag and she wasn't in the living room as usual, or the kitchen....
I found her laying on her bedroom floor. She was still breathing but not responding. I called for an ambulance and they told me she had been there all night! 12 hours all by herself! She had hypothermia.
My wonderful, fantastic Mum spent a few hours in resus and then 3 days in intensive care. She died on the Monday :(
The coroners got involved and told us the home dialysis was a contributing factor......
I can't accept that she has gone. I miss her so much :(
I love her so much and have to walk past her flat every day..It's killing me inside.
How can life go on without my best friend, the reason I still live where I do, my world :(
I know people in RL on here and I'm sorry if you realise who I am and read the full story.
Gosh that was long! Sorry xx
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ambulala · 27/05/2013 00:05
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27/05/2013 21:57
In so very sorry about your mum 
It must be very difficult for you, as it sounds like they should have taken her into hospital sooner. I hope you are coping ok 
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