Sorry this may be garbled / blunt, I just need to get it down.
My brother killed himself over the weekend. He'd had a troubled life and struggled to deal with it. He finally sought psychiatric help a week or so ago as he realised he was in a bad way and wanted to make it through for his son :( But it seems he could see no way out. My brother found him hanging in his flat yesterday. I think I am still in shock. We're not a particularly close family and there have been many "issues", but, oh my god, I feel so terribly sad for him. I am trying to stay strong for my children's sake (8 & 10), but struggling to keep it together... I really need to talk, but can't as the children are always listening and I don't want to make it any harder than it already is... Don't think DP knows what to say either :(
We have told the children the truth - obviously as few details as we can get away with, but I couldn't lie to them. Also, my brother knew a lot of people and there was the risk they'd find out from someone in the playground... It seems from reading on the Winston's Wish site etc, that we took the right decision as they advocate telling the truth, and answering questions as they arise. The theory is that if they ask questions, they're ready to hear the answers, but they just seem so young to have to know about this :( DS has been asking a lot of questions, how did he do it, why, etc, and it's so bloody hard. What do I say? DP has taken today off work but has to go in tomorrow and I don't know how I'll cope.
Then I start thinking about my poor, poor, nephew , who's the same age as DS, and I just can't bear it. How the hell will he ever get over this? He and my mum were the last people to see DB alive :(
Sorry for rambling... DP has taken the kids out for a while. Any words of wisdom would be much appreciated...
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LittleFriendSusan · 09/04/2013 12:52
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