Just feel crap. Had a scan last week which showed the baby had no heartbeat and was only the size of 6weeks. It should have been min 8 weeks. Went to EPU because symptoms were fading. My dates can't be wrong as my dh was not around for the 2 weeks after I conceived and I did a pg test before he got home which was +.
I have another scan tomorrow but know what it will tell me. I think I will ask them to do a D&C or whatever it is they do, as I've been waiting a week for it to happen naturally and I don't know if I can wait any longer.
Very down and dh keeps trying to be positive and telling me to look on the bright side - at least I can get pg. Can't see a bright side at the moment.
Don't want to wallow, but feeling quite sorry for myself today.
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Angsthase · 03/05/2006 12:53
I am very sorry to read this and sorry to hear you are feeling so down. You have every reason to feel sorry for yourself. Waiting is horrible I know .
Have you heard oft he Mioscarriage Association? they have some very helpful suggestions for dealing with your loss and marking it.
Have you told anyone else? could you get some support from friends and family? Often partners find it hard to know the righ thing to say ime.
sending love
HC xx
Just wanted to add my words of support too. I had a missed mc back in Feb. I too was made to wait a week before a rescan, when, as I'd expected, there'd been no change, so was booked in for an ERCP a few days later.
As Toadstool said, the operation is very quick and although you have a general aneasthetic you should be allowed home the same day. I wasn't even in much pain immediately following the operation.
I actually ended up having 2 ERCPs as the first wasn't completely successful, but both times the actual operation was absolutely fine and the staff were amazing about everything. [btw I'm one of the very few 1% for whom the 1st ERCP is not completely successful, so don't worry about that, if your bleeding continues for more than 5-7 days, go back to your GP and ask for a rescan. My problem was that I was left for 8 weeks before they rescanned me and found some pregnancy tissue was still left]
Big hugs and support to you - I found a lot of support from MN. Just knowing that I wasn't the only person to have gone through this was very helpful. I'd never really heard of a missed MC before and can still see in my head the picture of my baby during the 1st scan - horrible , but manage each day much better now. It won't feel like it now, but you will feel better as time passes.
Take care.
Thanks for all your support. Although it makes me more teary, it is comforting. Had my rescan today and got the confirmation. I've booked myself in for an ERCP on Monday.
Got a bit emotional at work when telling my boss. I think I'm alright with it then something will start me me off. At least my dh will be home with me next week, which will make it all a bit less horrible.
Angsthase......
Good luck hunny.. You will be fine.
I understand totally where you are coming from. I am sitting around too and waiting. I have been told that basically my second pg is non viable too. I have a confirmation scan on tuesday and then no doubt I will have to be booked in for an op like you. The waiting is awful.
Be strong. I have had the op b 4 and like all the others have said, it's over with very quickly and the staff are always so kind.
BIG HUGS to you and your DH.
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Oinker so sorry to hear this ..if you want to talk you know where to find me xx
Angsthase hope you are resting and looking after yourself. So sorry for your news too, it is an upsetting experience but in time it will get easier xx
Hi Angsthase - hope you are feeling better. Keep an eye on your bleeding. Do you have any pain with it? Every other day, I had quite bad period-type pains and then some relatively heavy bleeding shortly afterwards, as if my body was trying to remove something. Turned out it was and there was some pregnancy tissue remaining and that's why I had to have another ERCP.
Don't feel bad going to see your GP to discuss it - I must have gone weekly for 8 weeks before I finally got my rescan appointment. I had 2 lots of antibiotics as 2 different GP's thought I might have an infection and that's why the bleeding was continuing. Are you feeling well within yourself, MC aside? ie do you feel under the weather etc? If you are, it may well be an infection.
However, saying all that I was told after my 1st ERCP that I would bleed for 5-7 days and as long as it was getting less each day and not bright red, not to worry about it.
HTH 
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