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Extraordinary couple who lost three daughters

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SaintVera · 24/11/2012 22:24

I found this inspirational and desperately sad

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SaintVera · 24/11/2012 22:25

I think I linked it to page 2 so go back to see the beginning of the article

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CointreauVersial · 24/11/2012 22:28

Oh my goodness, I'd just want to crawl into a hole and die.

But I guess we never really know how we'd handle such a tragedy until it happens to us.

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BluelightsAndSirens · 24/11/2012 22:35

I have 3 girls, life can be a roller coaster of laughter, tears and stress.

Thinking about losing them all togeather reminds me to tell them I love them all in the morning.

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YoullScreamAboutItOneDay · 24/11/2012 22:42

That is so horrific I can't process it. Makes you want to never let your children travel in the same car/plane/train. That poor, poor family.

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LynetteScavo · 24/11/2012 22:49

I knew after DC1 was born, if he ever died, I would never get out of bed again. (

She must be such a strong woman.

And someone is actually thinking of suing her husband? Shock

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SweetMingePie · 24/11/2012 22:50

Such a sad story. How do you function after that?

I was horrified to read at the end about the dad being taken to court just because he owned the car thy was being driven. Why would you do that?

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Ponders · 24/11/2012 22:57

ambulance chasers, probably Sad Angry

the story made me weep. how do you go on after something like that?

but it was published July 2011 & she said the baby was due in the fall...\link{http://kdsthinkingoutloud.blogspot.co.uk/2011/11/happy-news-for-warren-and-jackie-hance.html\this says they had a little girl last November}

I do hope they are all well & finding life a bit easier now

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peeriebear · 24/11/2012 23:12

It also says in that second blog that it was the driver's husband suing?! I hope it came to nothing.

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LynetteScavo · 24/11/2012 23:15

Bloody hell. Just read that link.

I have cannot even imagine what that poor family have experienced. Shock Sad

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steppemum · 24/11/2012 23:25

youllscream - my mum once took all the grandkids on her car somewhere. When she came home, she said she was never doing that again. She felt the weight of the responsibility of having all of them in the car at once Sad

Whenever I see stories like this (there are quite a few where ex partners have killed the kids too) I just can't imagine what you do and where you begin Sad

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RandallPinkFloyd · 24/11/2012 23:41

A very close family member of mine lost 2 children.

They drowned on the bath, the boiler was leaking but not enough to affect an adult.

When she walked into the bathroom she found they'd silently slipped under the water whilst she chatted on the phone.

It was 40 years ago now but to this day I don't know how she puts one foot in front of the other.

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SweetMingePie · 25/11/2012 08:24

I didn't read that bit about the BIL suing. That is fucking disgusting.

Randall, that is so sad.

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LynetteScavo · 25/11/2012 09:08

The BIL (who was suing) lost his wife and child in the crash. Sad

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mamalovesmojitos · 25/11/2012 09:21

I cannot believe the way this couple have been treated after the crash! Unbelievable! And that their daughter's last words were used to title a film they didn't want to be made. Never mind the threat of legal action against husband Shock The anger would consume me. Those poor, poor people.

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SweetMingePie · 25/11/2012 09:24

I know Lynette. It's almost as if he is looking for someone else to blame. But how can you blame someone else?

The documentary that was made doesn't sound much different either tbh.

Poor smilies, torn apart by this.

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FrankincenseWippery · 25/11/2012 09:36

How sad. It's not the BiL suing, rather relatives of two of the people in the SUV. Awful awful thing to happen.

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SweetMingePie · 25/11/2012 09:53

Thanks for clearing that up Frank. Still don't make it any better. I could understand if the car had had some mechanical fault that the owner knew about/should have sorted, but this was pure human error.

Have been thinking about this all night.

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timeforachangebaby · 25/11/2012 10:00

I couldn't read this, my heart breaks.

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FrankincenseWippery · 25/11/2012 10:06

Oh goodness me, no it doesn't make it any better. It makes me so sad. No amount of money can bring a person back. I'm not sure what people cam gain from suing somebody over this tragedy.

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timeforachangebaby · 25/11/2012 10:16

OK I have read it now, as someone who got pregnant in the face of terrible circumstances, I can say, it brings a whole mix of emotions, I felt for months I had been invaded by an alien, but I couldn't verbalise how I felt because everyone expected me to be thrilled (baby was planned).

How incredibly strong they are, I'd have curled up in a darkened room and never come out, I wish I had even a 10th of their strength.

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Everlong · 25/11/2012 12:55

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YoullScreamAboutItOneDay · 25/11/2012 14:17

It's DM, but this article implies they are both suing.

On the other driver suing, I can kind of understand it might possibly be a legal technicality thing. You would expect a significant payment from the car's insurers in that sort of situation I should think. If they were refusing to pay, it would be the owner you bring the claim against rather than the insurer. The insurer deals with the case, etc, but the suit is still against the named owner. If that's the case, well the other poor family lost family members too.... The BIL I really can't understand though.

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SweetMingePie · 25/11/2012 14:37

According to the DM, it is the BIL suing for the ownership of the car.

Really is mind boggling you'd even think to do that!

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LeeCoakley · 25/11/2012 14:43

Everlong, that's who I thought of when I opened this thread. Sad
His last remaining child survived in hospital for a few days then died. What a final cruel blow. How he gets through each day you can't comprehend.

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chipmonkey · 30/11/2012 19:57

Oh dear God, losing one child was bad enough for us, can't imagine the coldness and silence in the house if they were all gone.Sad

I remember hearing a couple on the radio here in Ireland who had lost all three of their sons on three separate occasions. They were inspirational.

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