I posted on MN a couple of weeks ago about how poorly my lovely DMil is. Well she's gone rapidly downhill since then. She's almost comatose in a hospital bed. She comes round occasionally to open her eyes and look at you but she can't really speak or move much.
I am acutely aware that her beloved granddaughters, my dd's, may never see her again now. Grandad doesn't want them to see her like that and I'm inclined to agree with him. However I'm also wondering if they should all be allowed a chance to say goodbye together. If she wakes up for a bit.
I don't know that they'd be very upset by it. They might be upset at not being able to see her anymore. I don't know if seeing her in hospital would clarify to them that she is poorly, or just upset everybody. I don't think DMil is in any state to make a decision.
Dh doesn't really want them to see her like that. He and DBil are in bits. My DFil is beside himself. I know the dd's will be upset when she dies but I don't want to regret not letting them see her one last time.
I know I'm over thinking this. I'm so gutted about her. She's been like a second mum to me since my own DM died and she's the only Nanny my dd's have ever known. I keep crying every time I think about it.
Am I mad to want them to see her like that? Should I just let them remember her as she was? I want to do the right thing.
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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 26/08/2012 22:16
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