My dad passed away on the 10th August. My mum hasn't been with my Dad for over 6 years but they still lived together as friends and she was planning to care for him when he came out of hospital.
It's a bit of a sticky situation because all of his children from a previous marriage hate our family and me and my sister aren't blood children but he has brought us up from me being 9 months and my sister being 4.
We thought we wouldn't be able to arrange a funeral because they would object but we managed to get the death certificate because we were at the hospital when he died.
To move him to an undertakers his family need the death certificate and they have made no contact with us to try and get it so it looks like they haven't even tried to arrange a funeral for him which makes me sad :(
Even a cheapish funeral is going to cost 3k so I said to my mum and sister that we could each put 1k. I only work part time as a waitress so I was planning on either getting a loan, extending my overdraft or putting it on an interest free credit card. Neither my mum or sister is willing to do this which also makes me sad after everything my Dad did for us, especially when my sister is a teacher and earns double, if not more than what I do. They say Dad wouldn't want us to get into debt to send him off, but I know he would have done it for us. There's no way he would have let us have a council funeral.
I was really upset about it last night so DP said to find out what a council funeral actually consists of before I go getting myself all upset. I have looked on my LA website but all it says is that a car won't be provided for the family.
Can the coffin and hearse go from his house or does it have to go straight from the undertakers?
Are we allowed to buy flowers to put in the hearse?
Will we be allowed to pick hymns, play music and read verses or poems?
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Has anyone given their relative a council funeral?
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nappyaddict · 21/08/2012 10:08
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