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Things i have lost(10 Posts)
My mum died a month ago....
It's just setterling in that she has gone, but i am just realising that there will be no more childcare for me - no one to take my dd for a couple of hours to do arty stuff with - no one i can phone when i am fed up and just want a chat or a cup of tea.
i feel very lonley toady
Oh coffee sorry for your loss
Sorry to hear about your mum.
You're right. It is lonely. I wish I could do something to help . It's bloody hard some days.
7 months in it still hurts although not as much. You find a new way of living around the mum-shaped hole in your life and it does get easier most if the time.
Take care of yourself
Lots of love to you coffeedog. I've lost my Dad a couple of months ago so I know how sad and strange you're feeling. Please know that you aren't alone. And I hope there is someone in RL that you can pour your heart out to as well as us. Be kind to yourself.x
Your post has brought a tear to my eye coffeedog.
My mum passed away four months ago. Dd2 has gone to school dressed in red, white and blue today and I thought this morning I will take a photo to show my mum. But I can't show her, and I will never be able to again
It's so hard isn't it.
I am so sorry for your loss x
Hugs to you Coffee
My mum died 21 months ago and I am now struggling and missing the little things..the really little things, it's hard!
Its such early days for you, just be gentle on yourself and go with it!
Oh Coffee, it's hard isn't it? I haven't been well lately and even though I'm getting on a bit myself, I just wanted my mum. Only she would have known what to do to help me feel better.
((hugs)) to you. It does get easier with time.
My twins had a hat parade today... my mum would have designed and made their hats with them.... instead i had to do it
they were propper naff i even dressed them the same red/white/blue outfit today I NEVER DO THAT (my mum loved it she use to dress me and my twin sister the same untill we were 8 ;) and always bough them the same tops ;0)
I am strugerling mainly as i go to my dads house before dropping the twins off at nursery (parking is hellish and he has a driveway) I use to stop in say hi to mum the kids would have a drink a story with nana and a play before we would walk to nursery - now every day we do the same except when i walk in the front room my mum's not on the sofa the kettles not on - and the house is quiet and stuffy
My dad has also started phoning 'home' when i am there with the boys (he always called my mum at 12 everyday) - so i feel i should stay to answer the phone to him, i left straight after dropping the boys off one day and he got worried about where i was and i had 8 missed calls on my mobile ;)
I am just feeling sad today - I dont have any RL friends - not really just a few mums from the school i chat too DH would proberbly come home from work if i asked him - he has been lovley but has no idea how i feel really both his parents and grandparents are still alive.
I know what you mean about your DH coffee, I don't think anyone can truly understand what the loss of a parent means unless they've experienced it.
My dad & I didn't have a very close relationship until my mum died, but we became really close and although it was very hard missing my mum, it's also a time I look back on with fond memories.
Hoping today's been a little better x