Things i have lost

(10 Posts)
CoffeeDog Thu 31-May-12 08:36:51

My mum died a month ago....

It's just setterling in that she has gone, but i am just realising that there will be no more childcare for me - no one to take my dd for a couple of hours to do arty stuff with - no one i can phone when i am fed up and just want a chat or a cup of tea.

i feel very lonley toady sad

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Housewifefromheaven Thu 31-May-12 08:46:54

Oh coffee sorry for your loss sad

golemmings Thu 31-May-12 08:47:43

Sorry to hear about your mum.

You're right. It is lonely. I wish I could do something to help . It's bloody hard some days.

7 months in it still hurts although not as much. You find a new way of living around the mum-shaped hole in your life and it does get easier most if the time.

Take care of yourself

madmomma Thu 31-May-12 08:54:41

Lots of love to you coffeedog. I've lost my Dad a couple of months ago so I know how sad and strange you're feeling. Please know that you aren't alone. And I hope there is someone in RL that you can pour your heart out to as well as us. Be kind to yourself.x

BiscuitsandBaileys Thu 31-May-12 10:42:04

Your post has brought a tear to my eye coffeedog.
My mum passed away four months ago. Dd2 has gone to school dressed in red, white and blue today and I thought this morning I will take a photo to show my mum. But I can't show her, and I will never be able to again sad
It's so hard isn't it.
I am so sorry for your loss x

doormat Thu 31-May-12 10:43:23

coffe hugs xxxsad

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack Thu 31-May-12 14:19:23

Hugs to you Coffee

My mum died 21 months ago and I am now struggling and missing the little things..the really little things, it's hard!

Its such early days for you, just be gentle on yourself and go with it!

ZuzuBailey Thu 31-May-12 15:57:03

Oh Coffee, it's hard isn't it? I haven't been well lately and even though I'm getting on a bit myself, I just wanted my mum. Only she would have known what to do to help me feel better.

((hugs)) to you. It does get easier with time.

CoffeeDog Thu 31-May-12 15:58:29

My twins had a hat parade today... my mum would have designed and made their hats with them.... instead i had to do it they were propper naff i even dressed them the same red/white/blue outfit today I NEVER DO THAT (my mum loved it she use to dress me and my twin sister the same untill we were 8 ;) and always bough them the same tops ;0)

I am strugerling mainly as i go to my dads house before dropping the twins off at nursery (parking is hellish and he has a driveway) I use to stop in say hi to mum the kids would have a drink a story with nana and a play before we would walk to nursery - now every day we do the same except when i walk in the front room my mum's not on the sofa the kettles not on sad - and the house is quiet and stuffy

My dad has also started phoning 'home' when i am there with the boys (he always called my mum at 12 everyday) - so i feel i should stay to answer the phone to him, i left straight after dropping the boys off one day and he got worried about where i was and i had 8 missed calls on my mobile ;)

I am just feeling sad today - I dont have any RL friends - not really just a few mums from the school i chat too DH would proberbly come home from work if i asked him - he has been lovley but has no idea how i feel really both his parents and grandparents are still alive.

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ZuzuBailey Fri 01-Jun-12 17:49:51

I know what you mean about your DH coffee, I don't think anyone can truly understand what the loss of a parent means unless they've experienced it.

My dad & I didn't have a very close relationship until my mum died, but we became really close and although it was very hard missing my mum, it's also a time I look back on with fond memories.

Hoping today's been a little better x

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