finding the words

[stump]

Hi everyone, I hope noone minds me posting here as I know many of you on this topic are going through really raw grief. I recently found out that a couple I worked with about 7 years ago just lost their 4 year old DS. I haven't been in touch with them in all the time since I left work but strangely I saw them at the hospital the week before he died as we were both at a children's outpatient clinic. I remember him and his dad playing on the games console in the clinic. he died totally unexpectedly. A mutual friend has given me their address and I really want to send them a card - I can't stop thinking about them and how hard it must be. But what do I say? I mean there is nothing I can say surely. Should I even send a card?
Thanks for any advice.

[tunaday]

I guess there is nothing you can say Stump, but I am sure just knowing that you are thinking about them right now and feel for them enough to send a card will be appreciated. Could you just say something on the lines of what you say on here maybe? That you saw them at the outpatient clinic and just want to say you have been thinking about them a lot since you heard about their little boy. You don't have to write lots. It's just a compassionate and human act to acknowledge their loss. I'd absolutely send a card.

[chipmonkey]

stump, I lost my daughter last October and I really did appreciate getting cards from people. Just say that they are in your thoughts ( and prayers, if you pray). You are right, in that nothing you can say will actually console them so don't try to do that. Just let them know you are thinking of them.

[stump]

thanks so much for your replies. Its really helpful what you have said. I'm going to send the card today and do just what you have said.
Chipmonkey I am so so sorry to hear about your daughter. Thanks again for your help.