My mum died last week. She was very close to my 4 year old daughter, who I have tried to explain things to as best as possible. We were as prepared as could be, she had had cancer and we knew in early January that she would have only a few weeks left or a few months at most. Mum's body will be at her house for two nights this week before the funeral, it will be open. I will be staying there with my daughter, I am wondering whether it would be acceptable to let her visit the coffin with me. I realise some people would recoil at the idea and part of me does too, even for myself tbh, but I do my best to be as honest as possible with my daughter and don't want to shroud death into some huge unmentionable thing, I want to be as open as possible. Then again she is only a child and maybe it would be too much for her. Actually writing this is helping me make my decision; I think there's a risk of it being a damaging experience so I will keep her away from the coffin. Still, it will be quite difficult, as we will be staying there (my family live miles away), and Mum will just be in the back room. Anyone have any similar experience, advice?
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Should a young child see relative in coffin?
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WomanlyWoman · 25/02/2012 19:53
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