Bad news at scan yesterday

(121 Posts)
RalphGnu Thu 05-Jan-12 11:23:21

We went to the 20 week scan yesterday morning and found our son's heart had stopped beating at around 17 weeks.

Don't really know what to say, think or feel.

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Stumbleine Thu 05-Jan-12 11:25:30

I am so terribly sorry for your loss sad [hug].

We're all here for you to talk to. Do you have some support at home right now?

RealityNeedsANamechange Thu 05-Jan-12 11:25:38

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CumpyGrunt Thu 05-Jan-12 11:26:22

I'm very sorry sad

blushingbaby Thu 05-Jan-12 11:26:33

I'm so so sorry for your loss sad sending hugs.

PomBearAtTheGatesOfDoom Thu 05-Jan-12 11:26:50

I'm sorry sad

fanjodisfunction Thu 05-Jan-12 11:27:20

ralph so sorry to here the death of your baby. My baby was stillborn in April last year, we found out during a scan also, I was in labour.

I hope you can find some support on here as I have done, be gentle with yourself.

PriscillaQueenOfTheDesert Thu 05-Jan-12 11:27:20

I'm so sorry to hear that. sad

AnneTwacky Thu 05-Jan-12 11:27:46

So sorry for your loss. sad

catinboots Thu 05-Jan-12 11:28:01

so so sorry <<<<<<hugs to you and your family>>>>>>>>>>>>>.

SucksToBeMe Thu 05-Jan-12 11:28:12

Hope you are ok Ralph and have lots of support xxx

Fo0ffyShmo0ffer Thu 05-Jan-12 11:28:45

So sorry Ralph xx

CBear6 Thu 05-Jan-12 11:29:47

Oh love sad

There's no right or wrong way to feel and say as much or as little as you like, this is one of those times where you're perfectly entitled to be as self-centred as you like, do/say/think whatever feels right to you.

I lost a baby at 15 weeks, same thing - a scan showed no heartbeat. There was nothing wrong with her physically or gentically and nothing anyone could have done to predict or prevent it but I went through an awful phase of blaming myself, please know there is nothing you did or didn't do that caused this

SmethwickBelle Thu 05-Jan-12 11:29:55

I'm so sorry, what a terrible shock for you. There are no right or wrong ways to feel. Hope you have some support as you come to terms with what's happened. xxx

Tyson86 Thu 05-Jan-12 11:30:28

What awful news to receive. Very sorry to hear this sad

DizzyCow63 Thu 05-Jan-12 11:31:28

I'm so very sorry for you loss x

stickyLFDTfingers Thu 05-Jan-12 11:31:58

So very very sorry. As others have said, be kind to yourself. Hope you have lots of support. xxx

Greythorne Thu 05-Jan-12 11:32:02

Oh, Ralph, that is so sad. I am chilled to the bone thinking of your news.
Has the hospital been clear about the next steps?
Do you have real life support?

It is of course no consolation, but so many, many women on these boards have been through similar experiences, you will get tons of informed support here from people who know pretty much how you feel.

How is your DP?

Have you told anhone in RL?

Bug hugs and lots of support.

Vicky2011 Thu 05-Jan-12 11:32:48

I'm so very sorry for your loss x

RalphGnu Thu 05-Jan-12 11:33:13

DP has gone to work and I'm cuddling DS on the sofa. The phone keeps ringing but I'm not answering, because what is there to say? This is all so unreal. My best friend is finishing work early and is coming round this afternoon but I would rather be on my own, although having DS here helps me to keep calm. I'm scared to cry because it will turn into panic. I keep hoping this is a bad dream. When I woke up this morning I forgot for a second and then the reality came flooding in.

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Whatevertheweather Thu 05-Jan-12 11:33:16

I'm so sorry to hear this Ralph. It is an awful shock. I hope you have good RL support and you will find tons on here. Be gentle with yourself xx

Happenstance Thu 05-Jan-12 11:33:34

So sorry, my thoughts are with you X

TicketToRide Thu 05-Jan-12 11:33:51

How awful. I'm so sorry x

Figgyrollsintoapudding Thu 05-Jan-12 11:33:53

I am so sorry for you and your husband for this loss. There are no words, be kind to yourself and your husband, I am sure you did nothing wrong so please don't blame yourself. <hugs>

jumpingjackhash Thu 05-Jan-12 11:36:01

I'm so, so, so sorry for you. x

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