Christmas Eve will be the first anniversary of Allan's death. Not sure how to mark his first birthday in Heaven - or whether to mark it at all. Not to, makes me feel a bit as if we're forgetting him. DH thinks it's weird to.
It's not like we can have friends over as most are busy with family. It's not like we'll want to celebrate - I want to be celebrating his first birthday with him here, not his death (also we see that more as a beginning than as end, being Christians). It's not like we can remember his long and wonderful life - he only lived for half an hour.
It's been a bit of a crap year, with his birth & death - then I miscarried in August. Only just starting to get my head round that a bit. Family not making things any easier (other issues).
Do any of you mark the anniversary(ies) and how? Or do you choose not to? Not sure what to do. I do know I don't want to spend the whole bloody day doing nothing but travel to family (which is how Christmas Eves (also my birthday) are usually spent here), I s'pose I just want to sit and remember my little boy and the things I would like to do with him and for him.
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KarenHL · 05/10/2011 20:54
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