My experience with choosing wording was for MIL with ex-H, so I wasn't as emotionally involved as you clearly are. Hope it's okay to offer my thoughts anyway...
- are there particular words, phrases, songs or books that are meaningful to you and have a link with Nate? I tell my DC that I love them 'more than the world, more than the universe', so that's something meaningful to us. MIL used to tell ex-H and his siblings that she 'kept them in her heart' when she wasn't with them, so we incorporated this on to the headstone.
- does Nate have siblings, or other family members who are likely to visit his grave in the future? We knew we were likely to have more children (and have done so), so chose not to mention the children by name. So, although the stone says 'loved mother of ex-H, BIl and SIL' it just says 'much loved Nanna' but doesn't give the grandchildren's names.
I love reading 'Guess How Much I Love You' with my children, the final line 'I love you to the moon, and back,' is one that I really like.
Hope these are useful ideas for you. I'm sure that whatever you choose will be beautiful, because it will be chosen with such love x
We chose " Nos da cariad" which is welsh for "Good night my love" just simple and an etching of a baby sleeping on a crescent moon holding a teddy bear. I just want to think of Oliver sleeping rather than being dead if that makes any sence x
There is a marvellous book published by Memorials By Artists which is all about children's memorials. If you're looking for ideas it's well worth getting hold of a copy. We are trying to find words too. Not making any progress so far. Good luck with your words.
We chose 'In our arms a moment in our hearts forever'. I am also so sorry that you have lost your child. None of us would of ever believed that we would have to choose a headstone and the wording for our baby/child one day. You will find the right words though. x