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nice gesture or all wrong?

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sleeplessinderbyshire · 25/07/2011 21:48

friends of DH lost a baby earlier this year at 22 or 23 weeks. Although technically a miscarriage they named the baby and have been fundraising for the bereavement service at their local hospital so really it is more a stillbirth in all our minds. The due date is an a week or so. Would it be wierd to send some flowers and a card saying how much we are thinking of them on that date or nice? I'm struggling to decide what I think

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ICantFindAFreeNickName · 25/07/2011 21:50

I think it would be nice to show them that you are thinking of them.

Macaroona · 25/07/2011 21:51

I think nice gesture. Sad

Hassled · 25/07/2011 21:52

That's a lovely thought - I think a card would be nice. It's going to be a hard day for them, and nice to know people haven't forgotten.

sleeplessinderbyshire · 26/07/2011 11:35

i've ordered flowers with a card saying "thinking of you and [baby's name] on this difficult day with lots of love from sleepless"

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crystalglasses · 26/07/2011 11:38

lovely idea

AngryFeet · 26/07/2011 11:50

My friend lost her baby at 24 weeks last year. She had already had another 3 losses at this sort of stage. I sent her a message on the due date saying we were thinking of them and mentioning the babies name. My friend says it us hard that people do not seem to want to know that these babies existed. Yes she was sad but she wanted to talk about her babies and I saw pictures of them. Her sister even sent her a message saying happy mothers day thus year which made her happy - I guess it is overlooked that women like your friend are mothers who have lost their babies. Don't be afraid to say something - even if it seems to make her sad I bet they will appreciate it more than everyone ignoring the date.

crystalglasses · 26/07/2011 16:12

Yes, and if you can possibly remember, email her or phone same time next year - she will really appreciate it. I've done it for people who have had a bereavement and they often say that nobody else has remembered.

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