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Has anyone got a poem i can give to a friend who has just lost her sister?

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Marne · 22/07/2011 10:26

A close friend lost her sister in a accident on tuesday Sad, i want to send her a card and was thinking of giving her a poem.

Does anyone know a nice one?

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cantfindthewords · 22/07/2011 10:33

My mother's best friend just yesterday wrote out for me "Beannacht" (Blessing) by John O'Donohue. It is quite beautiful.

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Marne · 22/07/2011 10:47

Thank you cantfind, its perfect, will print it out (as my writing is not great).

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shelleylou · 24/07/2011 15:44

If you knew your friends sister a memory you had of her would be lovely too. I found it very comforting to know my brother ment so much to so many people.

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DrSeuss · 24/07/2011 16:11

?You can shed tears that she is gone,
or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she'll come back,
or you can open your eyes and see all she's left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see her,
or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember her only that she is gone,
or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back.
Or you can do what she'd want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on.?

Used at the funerals of both my parents.

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Hassled · 24/07/2011 16:12
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DrSeuss · 24/07/2011 16:16

How about some memory stones? Some people find it hard to talk about the person they have lost. Memory stones were originally for children but would help adults too.
They are 1) A smooth stone to hold and talk/think about happy times and good things about the person, 2) A rough stone to remember hard times and to remember that it is OK to remember the deceased was not perfect or to be angry that they are gone, 3) A precious stone, eg a chrystal, for special memories

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AngryFeet · 24/07/2011 16:27
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Marne · 24/07/2011 21:29

Thank you, i have sent her 'beannacht', i hope it was ok.

I like the idea of the memory stones.

I didn't really know her sister, only met her briefly in passing, i know they were very close (her only sister).

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fatandknackered · 24/07/2011 21:32

Might be too late but this is a lovely one too:

www.poeticexpressions.co.uk/POEMS/Death%20is%20nothing%20at%20all%20-%20Canon%20Henry%20Scott-Holland.htm

We read it at my dad's funeral.

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